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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for a year. in februry we decided to try for a baby, infact it was his suggestion. i am now 13 weeks pregnant and when i told him he wanted an abortion. i obviously refused (if i didnt want a family i wouldnt have gone along with his suggestion)since then he has said he didnt mean to ask for an abortion but has been making my life extremely stressful. i have now moved to my mums. i feel very alone, and as stupid as it sounds, i feel like he conned me. he has asked me to go back, but i dont want to, i want to avoid the stress and i also worry about when the baby is born. he has another child from a previous relationship who he sees regular. if i have this baby i would have to live in the next city making support from him less likely. what on earth do i do?
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reader, love-x-him +, writes (7 August 2009):
 Hii hunnie,,
He sounds like a total idiot. He should not have suggested it in the first place!!
You are absolutly right to say no to an abortion, and even more right to avoid going near him due to stress.
( I have recently lost my baby which it took me and my partner 10 months to concieve. I have been with him 3 and a half years and when i was 11 weeks pregnant, there were 'rumours' my partner wasnt the father.. at 12 weeks and 5 days,, i was rushed into hospital and the baby had died. they had scanned me the day before and my baby was healthy. The first thing they asked me was if i had been under any severe stress.. I blame my baby dying on the stress i was under. ** another note, the day of the scan the people causing trouble made me have a panic attack, threatening me.. ,,)
I advisse you to stay away from him until you feel ready to cope with him. He needs to realise what he has said and done to you..
I hope ive helped you,, x
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