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writes:ok, i m a virgin, but i don't have a boyfriend yet. but i have a really good friend that lets me do stuff 2 him, he has done stuff 2 me also, but everytime we do something, i fell really weird?? why is this happening? Reply to this Question
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reader, cherryrocker  +, writes (25 August 2007):
Hi, The reason you feel weird is because. In your head you are ready and willing to do this stuff but deep down you are not comfortable. This may change but if it does not...then the fact is that he is just too good of a friend and it makes the situation feel like this for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2007): if you don't feel good about what you are doing then stop and move on. I am not saying that you shouldn't do it but if you dont feel comfortable doing it then don't. I know you might be curious, but wait until you have found "the one" because I know you will be much happier when you are exploring someone that you really love
I don't know if this has helped or not, but you didn't really give a lot of details like what you did and how excactly it made you feal
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reader, Peterk5699 +, writes (10 August 2007):
 As many people have said below: It's probably because he's your friend and not your "Partner" who you should really be doing these things with.
Maybe it's because you know you're underage and that it's illegal to be doing so. How old is he? Your age? Older. Younger?
If he's older than 16-18, I'm not certain which then he could be put behind bars for having sex with a minor.
So it's best that you stop this and begin looking for a proper relationship. Even if it takes you a few years to find the right person. Just be patient then he'll suddenly come along and you'll know you've found the right person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): I have a friend who does this, and she enjys it at the time, but feels bad afterwards (probaly as shes usualy going out with some one at the time)
This may sound stupid but Im not sure what kind of "stuff" your talking about. Still, I think you should either start a relationship with this guy, or stop doing what ever it is your doing.
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reader, confusd31  +, writes (10 August 2007):
 the reason that you feel uncomfortable is because you are not ready for this. When you meet the rightperson you will know and you will feel how right it is. Dont do anything with this friend your body is trying to tell you he is not the one for you. If you do you will regret it. your friend will understand if he is a true friend. best of luck
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reader, Midge +, writes (10 August 2007):
 Okay, you say that you feel weird. Probably because you know that you shouldnt really be doing it. Also, the fact that he is supposed to be a friend will make you feel very different about the relationship you have with him.
Basically you are both using each other for pleasure, and thats not what you should be doing at your age. Your relationship isnt just a friendship anymore, its more than that.
Think about it honestly. Do you really think you are old enough to be doing this? I think if you think long and hard about it, you will find the answer is NO!
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (10 August 2007):
Because you know it's WRONG, WRONG, WRONG.
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reader, dragonfly13 +, writes (10 August 2007):
First of all let me start by saying there is no shame in being a virgin still. The reason you probably feel weird after experimenting with your friend is that you do not actually feel for him in that way. There is no rush to try these things even though at times you may feel left out because every-one else seems to be doing it. My advice to you is that if you feel weird afterwards maybe its best to wait until you find some-one you actually care for in that way and then it feel a lot better.
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (10 August 2007):
 Could be because you know deep down that it isn't the real thing. He is your friend, not a proper boyfriend so to speak. Either that, or you are still just a little nervous about physical contact, and that makes you feel "wierd".There's a few things you could do to help us understand your situation, such as tell us how long you have known this guy, and what you two have done together. That is of course, only if you are comfortable in doing so.
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reader, egy_flower  +, writes (10 August 2007):
sweetie, if u feel it's weird, then why continuing doing the same thing. Try to stop this. And be sure that one day u will be able to have someone in your life and you'll be very pleased making love to him.
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reader, Karlos Omnis +, writes (10 August 2007):
 Its probably because you are feeling a bit self-conscious with him, after all, the sharing of naked bodies is a very intimate thing.I need to ask something though, are you "doing stuff" to your friend in order to be well practiced?If you are then stop it right now, it's so rare these days that anyone maintains themselves for any degree of time, and its a major turn on if you get someone who is "pure" (for want of a better word).If not, and you're happy doing it, it probably feels weird because its a new thing, and its unique as i assume he's the only one you're sharing yourself with.If you view him primarily as a friend also, it could feel weird for that very reason, friends don't do things like that generally.
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reader, welshlass +, writes (10 August 2007):
hi, although you want to do stuff to your friend you probably feel weird because your friends and not boyfreind and girlfriend, what ur doing is clearly just experimental and providing your keeping ur self safe then theres nothing wrong with you experimenting with eachother, although if you really dont want to do what ur doing then you should stop, never do anything with anyone that makes you feel uncomfortable.
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reader, ....Comfused.... +, writes (10 August 2007):
 Hi. You might feel weird as you are not realy ready for the "things" you do to each other. You have to make sure that you are ready to make the decision that you want to or not. I'm not saying it was his idea or he forced you into it or anything. And dont see it as being selfish if you dont wont to. As doing things is a big step so tell him how you feel.And maybe it's not such a good idea to do things with a freind as i said its a big step that you usually do with someone you love and trust. It needs to be talked about alot before you move on to doing things.Hope this helped.
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reader, GoddamnedROCKSTAR +, writes (10 August 2007):
 Well, I would think that maybe you're not ready for that stuff yet, and beyond that, if he's just your friend, maybe you don't feel THAT way for him. That could make you feel a little weird about it, too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): You havent given enough information. You say you feel weird, weird how? Good, bad, guilty, how?
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