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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hi I would like advice as I have a particular issue with my boyfriend (who is 30) who seems intent on discussing money issues (his and other peoples) with people who he is not that close with - even emailing a female ex-work colleague in general chat how much he was thinking of spending on a car. He likes to tell people how much things cost, tells me that his brother is now out of the red and seems quite obsessed with the subject. For me, money is a very private affair and that decisions regarding money matters and other things should be kept low key. I am increasingly concerned that, as I may be moving in with my boyfriend soon that my money matters will now be added to his discussions - and its creating a feeling of distrust which I am sad about. I am also concerned that things I have already told him in confidence have already been aired (on the basis that I seem to hear things he shouldn't be re-laying about other people). I have told him several times before that for me money is a private matter but he brushes it off.
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reader, blueeyedbelle  +, writes (10 August 2007):
 How someone handles money tells a lot about someones character. Included in this is what they discuss about their money issues. Is he flaunting his particular wealth or his not so full bank account? By expressing things like how much he was going to spend on a car-he is trying to impress other people. Why I don't know. Sounds like he has some insecurities to work through. I also think money issues are a private, need to know only kind of thing.
If he is re-laying your private conversations so flippantly, then what else does he discuss? I am not saying he's a bad guy, but if distust him and are unsure, I would talk to him about it. If things don't change, I def. would hold off on moving in together. Money issues are one of the top reasons marriages don't work out(trust me, I know-if you want more details let me know :) and you're not even married yet and already have doubts.
Well, I hope this helps.
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