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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I can't decide if I'm bisexual or just bi-curious. Me and my friend who I think is bi hooked up in the toilets when we were realy drunk at a party and it spread round our college and people teased us. but I totally blamed it on the fact I was drunk, whereas my friend wasnt afraid to admit it. now I can't stop thinking I'm bi. I still fancy men, but whenever I have dreams or masturbate, it's always women I think about. Especially this one friend who I think I fancy. Now I want to talk to my friend about it, but I can't coz she's got a boyfriend now and they're always together and she loves him. I don't want to split them up, but I just want her help. After I have these dreams about girls I always feel sickened and try to stop myself feeling this way. I wanna confide in someone but I cant.. my mum is really religious too so I could never ever tell her if it turns out I am bi. help!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): OK. to "I might be a girl but I can help": you don't have to have sex with a girl to be bi. the world is filled with heterosexuals who have never had sex, yet they are straight. also, if you have sex with a girl, that doesn't mean you're bi. its not that simple.
Now to the real issue. Only you can decide if you're bi. its about the way you feel when you're with a girl or when you think of a girl. I'm going through the same thing right now. I've never been with a guy or girl, but lately I've been having thoughts about girls and checking out girls when a year ago, I would have said I'm absolutely straight. I'm starting to believe that sexuality is fluid. I think people just fall in love with other people, regardless of their gender...its about their personality. And believe me, I understand where you're coming from with religion. I grew up in a Christian home and I'm a Christian, so its been really scary for me too. I think the best choice for you is just to talk to your friend and have her help you sort out your feelings. Just be honest with her and tell her that you're scared and don't really know what to do with your emotions. If she's your friend, she's going to help you out. good luck!
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reader, 15 and worried  +, writes (24 August 2007):
ive made out with my friend while I was drunk and i really liked it but once i was sober I realized that really wasn't how I was feeling. Sometimes wen you're under an influence with someone that you trust it's really easy to have unreal emotions run wild. Do you notice how this was your friend and not a stranger or someone you just met? that's because you feel you can trust her. But if you really feel that you are attracted to the same sex then I think you should call a crisis line and get some professional advice it makes you feel better and not so freaked out about stuff
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): sorry i'm the girl who wrote the question.. when i said hooked up i meant sex..
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): hi.. this is the girl who wrote the question... i didnt explain myself very well.. when i said we hooked up in the toilets what i meant is we had sex. and i liked it... so am i bi then?? xx
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (24 August 2007):
 ok first of all if your bi you like to have sex with both men and women which as far as you have gone is just kissing. so i think you are just curious about things and as people are tensing you and your friend seemed to like it your beginning to question whether it really was just a drunking mistake. if you really want to know if you are bi, go to a gay club or hook up with a friend and see whether if you kiss a girl you want to have sex and actually have sex with a girl , than yes you are bi. but in my opinion i think your curious which is normal, but see what happens.
good luck
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reader, jm81690 +, writes (24 August 2007):
 You could always hook up with your friend again and see how it makes you feel.
But as far as girls getting drunk and doing stuff with each other, I've been at tons of parties where drunk chicks have done this and almost none of them turned out to be bi.
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