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writes:I have this very handsome boyfriend who is not sweet, lazy, dependent, doesn't give into the relationship. We are together for 4.5 years and I've been cooking and also washing dishes at least 3~4 nites a week. We are both working and I get very tired of being a 'maid'He takes me for granted................but he's a nice person and doesn't lie. I've talked to him for so many times and he refuses to give more into the relationship. I love him and want to break up with him, what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): I know I dont know who you are, but I have a similar situation. I have been with this guy for a year. My situation is very complicated. I am still married but have been seperated for 4 years. i jump in on the rebound andjust felt secure. he was married too. after four years I left him and finally feel in love again,but with a guy who has become very jealous and abusive. I have too kids which he doesnt want. He is so possive that i cant leave our room or see my kids. How do you leave someone you love and want to helpbut take a chance losing everything else?
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (23 July 2007):
 If you have tried to talk to him, but he won't change his ways, it's probably time to call it a day. Your not happy and he isn't going to try to make you happy. Think about what you do want from a relationship.
Is having love for someone enough? and does it give them the right to treat you like a maid. You say he's a nice person, but if he was that nice he wouldn't make you feel so unhappy. Does he bring anything good to the relationship apart from being very handsome??? does hetake responsibility for anything else around your home, the cars, the gardening, does he organise the household finances?? If hes just being a lazy bum, then you need to decide if you can tolerate it or not. If you can, then just live with it, if not then leave.
Aunty Em x
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reader, RUSTUPID +, writes (23 July 2007):
Life is too short to sit around in a relationship that you are not happy with. There are more guys in the world that wont lie to you. Start moving on.. and once he see that you are soo over being his maid he will either get his act together or you keep moving on till you find the guy out there that is willing to be a maid for you. Guys will do anything that you will allow them to do.. dont accept this crap any longer.
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