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writes:I am in a relationship that I am not happy in. I feel that my boyfriend does not love me or care about me. He does not treat me well. He hits me and says stuffs to me. When he does it he says he is either joking or was angry but if i do anything even remotely close to it i am a bad person. He is my first boyfriend ever and i want this relatiuonship to work out but I don't think it will; i don't think he wants it to work out. He does not show any interest in working out things. I have always been there for him. I can not turn to my friends and family becasue i am in a differnet country now and he is the only person that i know. I don't know what to do Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (11 November 2009):
You really need to get away from this guy. He doens't love you at all, he's just hurting you and using you. Is there any way that you could get back to your own country by visiting the embassy? Or could you go to a women's refuge at all?
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reader, SV +, writes (11 November 2009):
You should consider the fact that this relationship has no future. Any person that hits you isn't worth your time and doesn't deserve you. You're young and there are plenty of guys out there who would love to go out with you.
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reader, Ewan Nicholson +, writes (11 November 2009):
 You have be clear about what you want and what your deserve.Him hitting you and being abusive, there is no excuse for.I am sure it must be hard to take a stand so far away from home but you need to know your are the only person that can look after you.Be clear your worth nothing less that loving ,caring partner and make choices based on that fact.Life has weird way of helping us when we help ourselves.
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reader, ritalee +, writes (11 November 2009):
Darling, go back to your folks, you dont have to go through this. He's using his power over you, because you dont know anyone there and all that, to treat you badly.
I know that him being your first its kind of hard to let go, you think you will never feel this way again, you wanted it to last forever, but believe me, everyone goes through it and it turns out fine. I couldnt let go of my first boyfriend for 3 yrs, which now I realize was a waste of time. There a lot of great guys out there... Just go back to your family, at the end they are the ones that are there for you when you really need, right? Best of luck
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reader, dazey  +, writes (11 November 2009):
Please don't stay with someone who hurts you just because you feel you have nowhere else to go. If you really can't turn to anyone else you could seek refuge at a centre for women who are suffering domestic abuse. good luck to you x
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