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writes:Hello everyone.I don't know how to write what I want to without sounding like a complete loser. lol.Well, the thing is that till date, I have had only short-term relationships, the longest of which was perhaps 4 months.And because I did not want to have sex till the relationship had lasted a little longer, I have ended up as a virgin at the age of 27, which is 10 years older than the average age at which people in this country lose their virginity!My personal life is a complete mess, because when the men I date find out I have never had sex, they tell me it's abnormal and unnatural, and dump me. Most people also feel that to never have had a serious relationship by this age reeks of immaturity, although in general, I don't think people would classify me as immature!I'm not even sure why I'm posting this, maybe because I feel so upset and frustrated.Anyone has any advice?Sorry about the whining! =)
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reader, Devil Crazy  +, writes (1 August 2008):
 Besides socializing more, I feel that you should only lose your virginity to someone who is trustworthy and deserving of your love.
I'll say that if I am one of those who dated you, I will not back off as it is so difficult to come across a virgin nowadays! Even in my country.
There's nothing wrong with you, if the men cannot accept you, it's their problem not yours. You don't have to feel unworthy because of a few crappy comments.
All the best and good luck!
I am a 24-year old virgin myself.
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reader, Rhandy  +, writes (23 July 2008):
 for me its fine, and i'm happy to hear that my GF is virgin and it related to your case, dont worry about that and dont give your virginity to the one you really dont love,
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): Hello,
I'm the person who asked the original question.
Many of you suggested doing other things in life relating to my interests,etc. I already do that.
Thanks anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): I'd love to meet a 27 year old virgin. I'm a guy with a really strong sex drive and I was waiting until I got married to lose my virginity. The problem is I couldn't find anyone who was waiting for me.
Now I have a girlfriend who's slept with a lot of men and it haunts me every day.
I think its an amazing thing to not give your self away cheaply. Hold out until you find someone who is willing to wait for you. It will happen.
I would cherrish the opportunity to know that my mate has only been with a few people.
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reader, saltwater +, writes (16 July 2008):
 I have said it before, and I'll say it again...
You need to put yourself out there in places that interest you! Join clubs that do activities that you enjoy doing...that way you stand more chance of meeting a man who shares your interests; these men are then more likely to be mature and will not have a problem with you being a virgin.
27 is a bit of 'limbo' age as far as a man is concerned. Some men at 27 will feel that they will have to teach you how to have sex...which will put them off.
Other men will not have a problem and will likely respect you more for it, and will be happy to teach you.
Some men will be thrilled that you are a virgin as they will be too! You only need to look at some of the male posts on this site with men that are desperate to find female virgins around your age!!
So the right man is out there for you; you just need to go out to places where you have a high chance of meeting him!!
"My personal life is a complete mess"...so go out there and change that!!!
good luck
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 your not abnormal or unnatural hun, you just have huge respect for yourself. you wouldnt believe how many ppl out there are in the same situation as you - ppl that are still waiting for the right person and relationship to some along. and that will come along for you. count yourself lucky that you didnt sleep with or date any of the guys who thought you were abnormal - they are obviously only after one thing and one thing only - and THEY are the immature ones.
dont let this get to you or affect your ability to go out and have fun. the other poster is right - maybe try taking up lessons or a hobby? something like salsa lessons are a great way to meet new ppl, and you will meet the right guy and know it when he come along. your not alone in your beliefs!
just try and enjoy the other aspects of your life and things will piece together when you least expect it.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 I can't help but think that to someone out there, this won't be a problem. There are lots of men and women who lose their virginity later, that it a fact. We have people post on the subject more often than you would think. I just think that you haven't been with the right guy yet. He's still out there, Hun. You aren't whining, you are just frustrated.
I bet if you ignore this for a while, and throw yourself into something that you feel passionate about, you will bump into someone who's into the same things that you are. Think of something that you always wanted to try but put off in your adult life, perhaps something that you loved as a child? Learning to play the guitar? Anyways, put you energy into another direction for a while. You tend to meet people when you are involved with life, and when you least expect it. XXX
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