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writes:Dear Agony Aunt, My name is Fiona and I am seventeen years old and I recently found out that I am pregnant. I am very confused and I really don’t know what to do and I still haven’t told anyone. Please help!I thought that you might like to know a few things about me before you reply.• I teach at the Sunday school at our local church• My teachers say that I will get excellent A-level results• The careers officer told me that I will be good at jobs working with children • I want to go to university• I have been seeing my boyfriend for 18 months• I attend the church youth group every Friday• My boyfriend train with his football team every Friday• My dad often works abroad• My parents have 3 children• I am the eldest of the 3• My mum works full time• My mum had a miscarriage last year• I enjoy being with children• The priest at the church is the local chairperson for the Society for the Protection of the Unborn Child (SUPC)• The youth group had a jumble sale to raise money for the SUPC last week• I find the priest easy to talk toThank you, Fiona xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): I Dont Know What to do My Dad is a Preacher .... My boyfriend is 23 and he says he loves me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009): I respect you for your religious views, i really do, and I hope one day I can follow the Christian faith, I'm just not quite there yet.
However, one of my big grudges against religion is its concrete views; you are a person, not, one of many thousands. Do what is best for you!
Would the priest you get on with so well be just as happy to see you mentally drained and suffering after the birth of a child? Or to see you pine a child that you have given away?
I could'nt do it. Your child has been given life, yes, but to what cost? Would'nt you rather give your baby (when it is ready, due and expected)the peace of mind knowing it was always wanted, in a secure family house with a loving guy?
Just my thoughts.
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reader, charleyalex +, writes (30 June 2008):
well i think u have everything u need 2 persue this pregnancy! i tihnk a baby shouldnt stop u doing the things u want 2 do in life and will be a great expreience and u will love this baby persue your career but dont think a baby will stop u! tell your mum it is the best thing to do for advice and help
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): Hi, I'm a Christian 2! I'm 17 and have just found out I'm pregnant...when I found out I broke down and was so scared but I told my mum and dad I know that they love me no matter what, and so will yours! What you need to remember is that God has blessed you.I know you are scared and I'm really scared, my boyfriend is probably going to prison soon and I will probably end up as a single parent. But you have to be strong for your baby and of you do have it you will love it so much and that's what I keep reminding myself.But if you do not want to keep it that's completely your decision god will always forgive you no matter what you do!! So don't worry and good luck XXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007): I am also 17 and just found out I was pregnant. I have not yet told my parents. I am a junior in college. I started college when I was 15. You would think I was smart enough to know how to tell my parents, but I do not know how to either. An issue is the fact that I am not exactly sure who the father is, plus, I really don't want whoever it is in my kids life, giving the fact that I do not even know them that well... The only advice I can give you is to find someone you trust and tell them. Maybe they will be able to help you tell your parents. The sooner we tell, the quicker we get the care for our baby and ourselves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): Ok well maybe this can help you here is my story.
I am 17 years old & 7 months pregnant with a little boy. It's hard but i wouldnt change it for the world. See my boyfriend & I have been together for 3 1/2 years. He goes to all the doctor appointments & I am supposed to move in with him as soon as the baby is born. But lately we have been having problems. But unbelieveable they have nothing to do with the baby. I just feel like he no longer cares about me the way he did. It hurts but i think i have finaly gotten up the courage to take a break. Being pregnant has made me grow up a lot & realize a lot of things. Its a great feeling. I love it. It helps me to cope with things knowing i have a little man on the way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2007): you need to tell your parents and the baby's father i am a 17yr old mother or expecting and the best thing to do is to tell your loved ones your going to need some help and don't be embarassed,go to the doctor as soon as possible and also think things over about what your going to do money wise and also education wise i am a senior in high school i plan to finsh this year and i am due in june 2008 i then plan to go to college and dont think you cant do anything because you now have a baby you can do what ever you put your mind to
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): I think that you should talk to your mother, or the priest about your choices. It is a very scary thing to deal with, but it aint the end of the world. I would advise you, and everyone, to keep the baby! I cannot agree with abortion but that is just my opinion. You should tell someone and talk to them about it. The more you talk about it .. the more you can come to terms with it.
Good Luck Honey x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): Hiya i just want to tell you a little about my story and i hope it helps. I am now 23 year years old with a happy 4 and a half year old little girl. I fell pregnant at 17 became a single parent at 18. I come from a very strict family i was raised in the lds church (the mormons) so oyu can imagine how i was feeling absolutely terrified. im the youngest of 5 and my famuily work full time. when i told my family that i was pregnant they were nothing but supportive and i was happy but terrified thinking that maybe the child would be better off living with a stable family...maybe she would have been but for 2 and a half years i was unemployed went back to work part time and now ive been successful in me new full time employment..all be it a single working parent my daughter has just started school and although it is a challenge we are a team and . we get through life together that is how you will feel. when people tell me that young mothers are this and that i laugh because my life is nothing but my daughter i work for her and love her so much i dont sit on my backside and expect the social to pay i think thats wrong its a means to an end but not a life choice. ive gone wayward here all im trying to say is dont worry life works out no matter what its what you make it and you and your child will be happy as long as you try your hardest and believe in yourself you dont need the advice off other people i believed in myselof and it worked out im sure if you do the same youll be just as happy
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): It's funny how non chruch going girls your age can have sex but not get pregnant but a Christain girl like you can. You need to tell your b/f, talk it through but honestly I think you should have an abortion. But its up too you.
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reader, cleaver-lizy  +, writes (2 October 2007):
 hey fiona. i know this is difficalt. but you must tell you bf. and than both of you must talk to your parent. they will get mad and proparly ignore you for a wil. but after that they will accept it. and wil help you to make it though.
just dont not tell then. they need to know that you trust them. i dnt know how your parts will react. i know my mum would be so mad just to know im not a virgen anymore. but she wil help and support me later on.
your mun will also. she loves you. good luck. you can mail me if you want to talk.
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reader, sweetlilpeachx69  +, writes (2 October 2007):
i gree with the other aunt and also i feel that you are good with kids so keeping it maybe the best option talk to your boyfriend and your family too that would be the best thing to do listen to what everone else has to say
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (2 October 2007):
 Hi sweetness,
Well, you sound like a really smart girl who has made a mistake. It's okay, accidents happen and it sounds like you're kind of in a scary situation. I think that first you should tell your boyfriend, followed by your parents.
Now you've got lots of options. You should go to your local doctor and ask them about some. There's always the options of abortion or adoption, both of which are fine decisions. Just make sure that you do your research and find a very capable doctor. If you choose adoption, try to find a counselor who you can talk to, because adoption can be a hard thing to cope with during and after your pregnancy. A counselor can help you sort through those feelings.
If you choose to keep the baby, it sounds like you have a web of people who love and support you. Your church should be there for you, to help you and be your extended family. Your actual family sounds like they will be there for you as well. You and your boyfriend have been together for a long time, and if he does anything less than love you and hug you and kiss you - shame on him.
It sounds like you have a strong support system who I think you should talk to. Which of your parents are you closer to? If you think your Mother will take the news better than your Father, tell your Mom first and she can help you break the news to your family.
I wish you luck and urge you to go to a doctor and to talk to the people who love you. You have options, sweetness!
Good luck!
xxIndia
P.S. After this whole thing is said and done, you should ABSOLUTELY get yourself set up with some form of birth control so that no more mistakes like this will happen!
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reader, penta +, writes (2 October 2007):
 As I see it, you have three choices: (1) have it and give it up, (2) have it and keep it, (3) don't have it. (Choice 3 may not be available given your religion, but it's up to you.)
If you're not going with Choice 3 you should probably talk to the priest that you are comfortable with. He'll be able to give you some good advice because he knows you well. If you can, you should also talk to your mom.
Make a list of the pros/cons for each choice and see what you're most able to live with. Good luck hon.
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reader, jtaunton5410 +, writes (2 October 2007):
 Okay, well by the looks of it you are nto a bad kid or anything. I mean it doesnt sound like you go out, party, drink and do drugs. Yeah being pregnant at such a young age is kinda scary, but you really have to figure out as to whether or not you want to do this right now. I mean you have to ask yourself, will the father be around to help support his family? What will I not be able to do after this? Can I handle this financially? There are so many different decisions that you have to make right now. Now me personally, I dont really like to think about abortion. So there is also adoption, but would you be willing to give up your child after being pregnant for 9 months. I really think that you should discuss this with the father, You two have been together for quite sometime and I am sure you guys will be able to talk about this. Once that is done, figure out what you two want to do. And then you have to talk to your mom about all of this. She may be upset as some moms will probably be but since she has already had children she may be able to give you excellent advise. You never know she may even try and help you raise the baby if you choose to become a parent. Good luck and I hope you make the best choice for yourself and the choice that will make you happy.
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