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writes:i am 15 years old and 15 weeks pregnant i dont know how to tell my mom and i told a lady that has been helping me through all this i would tell her within my winter break which will end on the 7th i am scared my mom will hate my boyfiend and there are other things she is stressed about but i think i should tell her because it would be very good to see a doctor......please give me advice Reply to this Question
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reader, mommy2009 +, writes (18 April 2010):
tell your mom you need support!!
I'm 14 and have a 4 month old. once I told my mom it was was weird for a week or 2.. But then I got all the help I needed from her...and my mom was by my side... since Sophia's dad isn't... So tell your mom she will understand that your her daughter and she will help you.
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reader, dontjudgeme1 +, writes (3 June 2009):
well im 15 and 4 months pregnant by a 19 year old who doesnt even wanna be with me anymore ; which is bad ; my mom found out from other ppl and the 1st time she asked me i sed no and then i jus told her the truth ; so i think the best think for you to do is to just tell your mom/parents my mother doesnt hate me or my babies father they jus have to relise that things happen and only u can choose wheather or not ur gonna keep the baby ; i hope this helpss ~!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): Hello sweetie! You really need to see a doctor to do what is best for your baby. I know it's going to be hard for you, but you need to tell your mom...You know her personality best....there really is no good way to tell her if you know she will get mad...but you have to do it...she will get over it and hopefully support you.....If not, accept the help of others....be strong....keep your baby...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): im in your same situation and same age lol i have taking two preganacy tests and both have showed negative have you missed your period too ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008): hey,,
just wondering if youve told your mam yet.Ive just found out im expecting and im 16.Im exited about having a baby but scared about what my mam n dad will say.Im not even with the dad so it carnt be as bad as me lol.xx
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reader, daletom +, writes (12 January 2008):
It's after the 7th - I sure hope it went well for you. Can you give us an update?
As a parent with (mostly) grown-up kids I know that I would want to know, sooner rather than later. I'm quite confident saying that, even though I didn't have to actually go through it with my kids. I've been around parents who DID experience it. No, it's not much fun but you REALLY need to let them know.
Writing the note or letter sounds like a good idea in some cases. It gives everybody the chance to think through a serious matter, without the pressure of giving an immediate response or doing things that may aggravate the problem. There are probably people in your life, whether you know it or not, who can help you break the news: An older brother or sister, school counselor, church youth leader, close relative, maybe even your boyfriend's parents. They can help you practice the conversation, show you how to act mature, maybe even go with you.
If you haven't done this yet, please don't wait any longer.
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reader, always.you +, writes (11 January 2008):
 just sit her down and tell her that you need to tell her something important and that its something that you hope she will be there for you and explain to her that she cant hate your boyfriend because he did this to you because it was your fault too(not blaming you)but yall made this baby together so your mom needs to understand that and hopefully she will be there for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008): Tell your mum as soon as you can - because you are nearly 4 months gone and soon you won't be able to hide the pregnancy bump!
She's bound to be upset at first but being a mum herself she'll understand what your going through! Just don't scream & lose your temper with her if she gets mad at you! That won't help you, the baby or your mum!
If you were adult enough to have sex, get pregnant you should be grown up enough to have an adult converstation with your mum about this.
Best of luck with everything :)
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reader, kargrav6 +, writes (31 December 2007):
wow, fisrt off good luck. i was 15 when i got pregnant and the best advice i can give you is to tell you mother asap because the longer you wait the harder she'll take. i know trust me i was 6 1/5 months before my mother knew and yes she took it hard. now im not saying that it going to be easy to tell your mother however; it is the easiest part to teen pregenacy. make sure you tell her in a...well break it down to her softly and never blame this on anyone, take responsablity for your actions, people will respect you more. im not going to say this is easy but the truth sometimes hurts but its got to be hurd, trust me its better if she hears it from you rather than someone else. you're going to need prenatal care so the sooner the better. a mothers natural habbits are support she will bet up set but when things calm down she be your #1 support trust me. trust me i know 1st hand knowledge my mother loves my daughter soooooo much. and one more thing don't let ppl tell you what you can and can not do thats up to you. i didn't drop out of school, im in college, i have a great job at the hospital working w/ my mom and i did everything ppl said i couldn't with no man to help me. you can do it.
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reader, mama2three +, writes (31 December 2007):
 You need to tell her as soon as you can. You need to get to a doctor, you need good prenatal care! There are a lot of programs that help out teen moms, I'm sure I could point you toward some resources (if you don't have them already) if you email me.
She will probably be very upset. Granted, I was 18 when I first got pregnant, but my mom demanded I get an abortion, which just was not happening. She freaked out on me and insisted that my boyfriend was going to leave. Well, it's almost four years later and we are married with three beautiful boys :) ANYWAY...my boyfriend sat down with her when everything calmed down and assured her that he was going to do whatever he could for me and the baby. That made her feel much more comfortable.
Tell your mom as soon as you feel you are ready, the sooner the better. You never know, either! I thought my mom was going to be okay with me being pregnant and my dad was going to be the one to flip out, but my dad was the one who was totally supportive!
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reader, x-Happy-Feet-x  +, writes (31 December 2007):
 well you need to tell you rmum i fink you should just ask to talk to her but try to not to talk fast talk slowly to her and she will be very shocked but say you need her help adn thats what mothers are for have you got any older brothers or sisters i no my older sister would help me soo i think you should tell someone but u can see a doctor without a parent you know just call them up xx hope this helps
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (30 December 2007):
 Hun either
write a letter
or sit her down and tlak to her
but expect her to be upset.
im sure after she calms things will be ok
and see a doctor asap! x
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reader, angel150590  +, writes (30 December 2007):
hi, i am 17 with a beautiful baby girl. I was 16 when i told my mum i was pregnant and it was the single most scary moment of my life but once she knew i was relieved. Expect her to absolutely flip. My mum screamed at me then didnt speak to me for two days but then she sat me down and asked me what i wanted to do and she supported me the whole time i was pregnant and was with me for the birth of my daughter and now she is here she wouldn't be without her. At the time it will seen she will never talk to you again but when she sees her grandchild she will forget it. xxxx Finally GOOD LUCK
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2007): write a letter, then place it downstairs for her to read.
explain to her you have decided to keep the baby no matter how much you have thought about it. you need to have a scan, therefore tell her as soon as possible, the longer you leave it the harder it will be.
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