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writes:Had or having an affair?hes 31 but 2 months ago he trashed his 24 year old friend by revealing her sexual antics on radio,the number of men she slept with and who's she sleeping with while hes talking and 3 weeks ago he said hes a fan of the same friend sarcastically.why is he getting angry ??she was a close and good friend of histhey work in the same placean affair going on???why will a married man be concerned with this girl sex life ,indirectly calling her a slut???who happened to be his good friend???and all of a sudden??friends dont slander their friends like this unless that person is more than a friend.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (17 September 2011):
 I would also veture a guess that he hit on her and she turned him down... the rest was his "revenge". He assumed since she was a "slut" (in his book) that she would sleep with him too.. Apperently not.
Wow, people talk about women scorned... this case I think it's man scorned.
But this is just guess work, ask him.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (17 September 2011):
 Actually, this doesn't sound like an affair. It's possible he suggested one and was turned down flat. Usually, you see this kind of behavior in response to a wounded ego. Seriously, why would a married man have details of a woman's sex life who isn't his wife??
I HAVE NO PROOF of this, but if I were guessing, I'd say that he considered her "easy" and got really pissy that she wouldn't have anything to do with him. Either that, or she screwed him over at work, which pissed him off to the point of wanting to hurt her personally.
Either way, I don't think he's had any kind of affair with her, and it's disgusting that he's trashing her like this. It's disrespectful to you, and demeaning to women in general.
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reader, sammy1986 +, writes (17 September 2011):
I don't think there is much you can do about this situation as you do not have any solid proof that he was or wasn't having an affair I would not say anything to him about this but watch his actions towards you if he starts to become moody or secretive taking calls in private or not leaving his phone lying around I would get suspicious
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 September 2011):
 Well, did you ask him ? Why don't you ?..
While I agree with CG that this is not enough evidence per se to say he's been cheating, I find rather weird ( and, sorry, rather horrific too! ) that a man would turn against a good friend to the point of slandering her on radio . They must have had some really big falling out , and I think your curiosity would be legitimate.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 September 2011):
There's simply not enough evidence at all that he's having an affair with her. If you think he's having an affair, you need to do a lot more groundwork. This alone isn't nearly enough. They could have just had an argument for all anyone knows.
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (17 September 2011):
 seems like he had alot of information on her on her that he knew. jealousy could be one motivation for doing what he did. the thing is how did he get all that info on her ?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (17 September 2011):
 I read your submittal four times and STILL couldn't make a logical jump from your "facts" to your conclusion.
Then, I realized: What difference does it make???? Is the guy in-question your hubby? Is the woman in-question your sister or daughter???? Then WHY this submittal????
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reader, Red591 +, writes (17 September 2011):
 maybe she pissed him off by saying something to him or who knows. you don't have enough info yet. Ask him why he is so bothered by this and seem confused like you think its abnormal and maybe he will tell you. If he makes up some obvious lie, then something is going on but it may not be an affair so don't jump to that conclusion
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