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writes:This is a commonly asked question, I know.I'm pretty much in love with a teacher. He's amazing, but I won't go into details. The only thing I want to know is how do I stop loving him?I know it's a stupid, pointless crush, but I can't stop thinking about him. What can I do to get over him?My friends also know. What can I do to get them to believe that I'm over him, even if inside I'm not quite there yet?Eek. Thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2010): im in the EXACT situation, in fact, my teacher won't even look at me anymore! SOMEONE HELP X(
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): I had the same problem!!! I am out of school now and the last day I managed to get a goodbye hug from him, since I was a senior I know I wont be seeing him again. That was closure for me though. I used to think about him all the time but I just new it couldn't be he is older and taken. I can say I am over him now.
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reader, mysterious_blonde_lady +, writes (3 June 2009):
Sometimes these things happen; it's painful and you feel in love. Unfortunately there's no quick fix for these feelings, often they linger for a while; sometimes years. The best thing you can do is not to put this teacher on a pedastol. He is a normal, flawed human being he is not 'amazing' he is just a man, a normal boring man. You can like him, you can fancy him, you don't 'NEED' him. What you need to do is analyse and evaluate your priorities; think 'when ive got this done, when ive done this etc... then i can think about stuff like that. Don't bury your feelings because they won't go away that way, just be practical about it. Consider that there is time to be attracted to teachers, this man isn't going to go anywhere. When you're done with what you need (education, growing up etc..) then; and only then, you can think about relationships with older people. You can always persue a relationship with this man when you are 18 and have left school when you are both 'equals'. What you feel is not 'stupid' or 'pointless', there will be a reason you are focussing your energies on your teacher. I wonder why you wish to fool your friends into believing you are over him? Whether this is because they are worrying about you or mocking you, you shouldn't have to pretend or hide things. You need to look at solving the real issue in your life; this is classic displacement. Hope i helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): um....if you like your teacher then odds are he is WAYYYY older than you and thats kinda creepy but to stop loving him you just need to find another boat to float on
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reader, Amy2007x +, writes (2 June 2009):
 hey!
Awk, I was in the same suitaution last year. I dont know what to tell you as everyday I would say to myself "Okay, going to stay away from him and forget about him" .. being in his class basically everyday didnt help nor did the face that I thought that I loved him!
Basically, I didn't get over him til I left skl .. but anytime you want to chat drop me an email anytime and I'll see how I can help you :)
amy
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reader, LoveJoy +, writes (27 May 2009):
 I know the feeling. I know this sounds stupid but a lot of the time you will only fancy teachers that teach you, and when i say fancy I mean you feel like you love them, but, when you get a new teacher your attentions will turn.
As for your friends, I am afraid like i had to do, you will have to deal with them. Ignore any stupid comments. Most Importantly don't talk about the teacher all the time!
lol
Hope i helped.
Lovejoy
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reader, johnson.joe21  +, writes (27 May 2009):
Don't mention him, or seem in awe with him. You inner most thoughts are only your business. nobody else's so don't share them, or make them obvious.
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reader, regret +, writes (27 May 2009):
your feelings are important and they are not stupid and pointless.however, i think you know deep down its going nowhere.a-hes your teacherb-it would cause problems for both of you.but you are entitled to have feelings.this will pass in time-the way to stop this playing on your mind is to try out some new activities-get occupied to distract your mind.try not mentioning it to your friends for a few weeks-even if youre dying to, DONT !just from doing that they will see that youre over it.take care hun and remember your feelings are special as you are too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): I was going to suggest that you should avoid places that you know he will be, but if in school thats difficult, err maybe try not to look at him as much when you do see him, that way it won't be as obvious to your friends that you still like him.
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