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writes:How should i confront my husband about him texting when he thinks i am asleep?My husband is sending a 'hi' msg on his bbm to his coworker at 12:30 am, while he thinks i am sleeping with our babies. what should you make of it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2011): I would ask him who he is texting and see what his response is. Does he look at you in the eyes and seem truthful? If it continues I would grab his cell when he is not around and find out who he has text and then call them and seem like a stranger or sister who is looking for him and see how they response. I am a journalist so I do wierd things
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reader, Tuatara  +, writes (2 May 2011):
 It sounds like he could be up to something I am afraid. And it is difficult to think of any innocent reason for him doing this, assuming the co-worker is female, it sounds like a major red flag. How do you know who he is messaging and are they replying?What should you make of it. Secretive behaviour. Consider whether your going to be able to continue to stay silent. You said "while he thinks Im asleep with our babies" which highlights that this not something you need to be worrying about with him.I suggest you ask for an explanation. It sounds like something you need to know. Perhaps you could text him and ask! Good luck.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (30 April 2011):
 It's really not normal. A person wouldn't message the butcher, baker or the candlestick maker in the middle of the night. I wouldn't message my mother, sister, buddy, neighbour, pizza delivery guy etc..... What if you did the same thing next time you're in bed together? Just pick up your phone and start messaging someone. He might find it odd. Most people go to bed to sleep. The fact he doesn't do it when you're together makes me curious. The truth is this, there are many variations of normal. I'd say those actions are not common and could be seen as inappropriate by a persons partner. It could be seen as a common sign of trouble or in other words a red flag. Are you spending too much time sleeping with the babies? Is there a reason why the babies can't sleep alone? Does your husband get attention from you? How is your love life?
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (30 April 2011):
does he do it only when you are supposed to be asleep ?you can dig for a truthfull answers by going out in a romantic night and tell him that you are blaiming your self for not giving him enough attention,sex,...etc and listen to what he saysfinally why dont you try to check his bb when he is sleeping,taking a shower...etc ?Good Luck
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 April 2011):
 Well how does this co worker reply to the message that is saying hi, has there been anything in the messages that sound suspitious to you. I think the best thing you can do before you accuse him of anything is just to take some more time and see how this progresses and look to see if there is anything of concern in the messages. It does sound strange to me that he would wait until after he thinks you are asleep to text someone. So just give it another while and see if it progresses in to anything more or sexual.
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