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writes:Men only please!I am a woman in my early fifties and have met a guy in his forties, there is a 8 year gap. He is grey haired and a bit overweight and I am hardly grey at all and trim, fit, and told I look much younger quite often, even in my thirties which I think is a bit extreme. What I want to know from men, is would the age gap matter to you, if you happened to meet a woman 8 years older if it did not show (or even if it did), if you got on well with that person and enjoyed their company?
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (2 August 2007):
As a bloke I would have no problem dating a woman of your age. I am 42 by the way and am probably a similar age to the guy you are dating.
I can understand some guys being a little worried about a larger gap than this but the concern would be much more of what others think as opposed to what they would think themselves.
I know at 42 dating say a 62 year old lady I would have no problem with this whatsoever. If the gap was the other way around and I was dating a 22 year old I know I would have to face a number of nasty comments and digs from strangers that I do not think I would enjoy in the slightest so this would possibly detract me away from such a relationship.
Nevertheless you are talking about an 8 year age gap that at 42 I would not consider a gap at all one way or the other. If I was in my young fifties then even less so.
When I was a teenager I dated a 25 year old which I thouroughly loved (An eight year gap btw.) - I was shown the ropes so to say - was the envy of many of my friends and didn't regret it in the slightest. We split mutually and very pleasantly when I went away to college and we are still in touch regarding occasional emails and christmas cards.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (1 August 2007):
 Personally, if I were in that situation I could not care least. I would go for you, madam.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007): No 8 years would not matter to me. Appearance is less important than than personality. I'm only 24 and in my opinion by the time 40s and 50s roll around a mere 8 years should not matter.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (31 July 2007):
 Oooops! didnt see the men only bit! My bad...ignore the below advice! haha
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (31 July 2007):
Oh geez yes go for it!
Not saying i think you're old at all! But i think as we all get older, the age gaps actually get smaller. As in, someone of 16 would have quite a big gap mentally with someone of 24. But someone of 30 with someone of 38 for instance? Not so bad, someone in their 50's with a guy in their 40's who cares???!
Us women always look younger than guys haha
Unlucky them!
But the only time i think its a problem, is when teens or early 20 somethings go for women in their 30's. Ive dated 2 guys younger than me, im 36, and they were both mummies boys, which really are looking for someone to take over their mummies role. Your guy in his 40's i dont think that applies to!
I dont see too many hang ups about age gaps 30+ anyway personally.
Both chill & enjoy!
C xxxxxx
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