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writes:i love one girl since 7 years .i didn't tell her about it,i am afraid to tell her,i can't even face her,how can i tell her about my feeling? Reply to this Question
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (22 February 2011):
 Okay......let me ask you a couple questions: Is the reason you haven't approached her because her/your parents want to arrange a marriage (to someone else) in the future?
Might it be they don't approve of her or of you, going out on dates?
If the answer is "No, no arranged marriages on the horizon, and yes, they don't object to their son (you)/daughter dating, then why are you afraid to face her?
If you haven't ever chatted with her on a friendly basis - or exchanged just a few words from time to time, it would not be a good idea to blurt out to her that you love her! That comes under the "heading" of too much information, too soon and might well put her off.
Better to ask her to go out for a cup of tea or coffee and ask her about the things she's interested in (films, music, school, etc.) and talk a little about yourself and what you enjoy. Keep it light and casual, maybe go out for coffee, lunch, a movie, perhaps again if the first get-together goes well, and slowly (don't pressure her!) begin to get to know one another as friends.
Or, if you go places with a group of mixed friends, boys and girls together, you might see if she'd like to join the group.
Hope this helps!
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reader, laura94  +, writes (22 February 2011):
 you say you love her, but to love her you need to face her, i dont know why you cant face her if theres been an issue between you two or something. you shouldnt bottle it all in, go and see her one day and you sit down and talk about your feelings, i wouldnt say you love her right then as it might freak her out a little bit, tell her you have liked her for a long time and still do and hope your friendship could be something eles.
i hope this helped a little as i had the same problem onces. please let me know how it goes and if i helped.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (22 February 2011):
 Do you talk? Does she know you? How well do you know each other?
Step 1. Ask her out.
Step 2. Go on some dates.
Step 3. Tell her how you feel.
A confession of years of love will overwhelm her. See if she's interested first, then confess. Of course, it all depends on the answers to those first questions I asked.
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reader, powerman +, writes (22 February 2011):
 Cant find the truth if you dont ask a question!
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reader, Captain Ziggy  +, writes (22 February 2011):
 Do you have an active friendship with this girl? Do you know if she feels the same way?
You don't want to come on too strong. Might I suggest just asking her out on a date and seeing how it goes first?
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