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writes:[Moderator's Note: 2 questions from the same poster have been merged together]1. Whenever i make love to 'a lady, i like giving her a kiss on her breast. Now i wanted to know or ask, is it a good thing that i am doing or is it just stupid?2. My girlfriend is still a virgin and she's telling me that, i'll be the one breaking her virgin. But the thing is, i feel so ashamed for her. Because breaking a virgin or making sex for the first time, its war and its very painful. So i needed help on how to break her virgin in a safe and a good way that she'll also like? She mustn't hate me after breaking her virgin, cause that's what most of the senoritas do!
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reader, Stikas +, writes (5 October 2009):
Stikas is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advices, I hope they'll help & every move i'll be doing will just go smooth. Thanks!!!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (1 October 2009):
You've got to be gentle with her and very patient. Go at her pace, let her be in control. Make her feel as comfortable as possible, and she won't hate you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): Don't describe it as 'war' . i am sure that she trusts you and that she'll be fine afterwards, just go at her pace.
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reader, puds123  +, writes (1 October 2009):
1. i personnally like it when my bf kisses me there but id be gentle because it s a sensitive area!! but youll know if the girl likes it or not when you do it because shell look like shes enjoying it or wont! I really dont think its stupid at all!!
2. If your gf is sure that she wants you to be the person she loses her virginity to then she wont hate you afterwards. Talk to her about the subject, girlsl ove it when guys tells us how they feel so dont be afraid to tell how your feeling abut the situation. If your both comfortable to go ahead then i would reccomend that you go really slow. Spend a lot of time kisses etc. first because that will really relax her and make her feel more comfortable. Talk to each other so you know if its too much for her or if she wants to try a different position which would be more comfortable for her. This is her first time so make iot special for her pick some flowers for her or soemthing. Just remember to let her stay relaxed otherwise she will tense up which will make it harder to enter her. also make sure you sure CONTRASEPTION. Trust me ive been there its not worth the worry!!!
Good luck
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reader, nicollieollie  +, writes (1 October 2009):
First of all, if she lost her virginity to you because she wanted to , there shouldnt be any hard feelings. if she feels unsure of what she has done or guilty maybe, i think talking to her about it would help alot. Explain to her how much you care about her and how much you treasure the fact that she has chosen you as her first. As long as you didnt pressure her into it, it should be okay. Also, kissing breasts is a good thing. I think kissing anywhere in general during sex is wonderful and most men dont do it enough!! kissing makes sex much more passionate and intimate instead of just personal gratification. Besides, lots of women enjoy having their men touch and kiss their breasts during sex. good luck = )
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): Talk to her about how it hurts for women to have sex the first times. And tell her about your worries that she might end up hating you. If she really cares for you she wont hate you though. So are you sure that you want to be intimate with her that way? If you decide that you do want to go through with it, use protection! Use a condom. Also take a lot of time with her, licking her, or using your fingers first. Only penetrate her after you are both comfortable with each other, and you know what she likes and not. In other words: have sex without putting your penis in her! Use fingers, and have oral sex for some times (maybe a month) first. That way it will be easier for her when you get to the point of penetrating her.
btw. kissing the breast while making love is not weird. If it's something you enjoy, just keep doing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): i must correct you when you say first time sex is painful as it isnt always. my first time i felt no pain just pleasure i wont go into too much detail.
and no it isnt stupid to kiss a ladys breasts. it is actually a nice sign of affection. take care.
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