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41-50,
*hief524
writes:I've been dating this girl for a short amount of time. I used to talk to her everyday if not see her everyday. Things were going great. I don't think that I was smothering her because if I didn't try to see her, she tried to see me. I went on vacation for 4 days. I talked to her the first day when I got there. The rest of the time I was there I couldn't get a hold of her. She sent me a few text but they were all short. When I got home I still couldn't get a hold of her. I sent her a text and she replied with two text the last one said sorry wrong person. This made me mad. I had been trying to get a hold of her and she wont communicate back. I got on facebook and told her this was BS. I used some words that I should not have. I then find out that her 2 year old son had been sick and she was taking care of him. She is mad and will not talk to me. The text that I get from her are as if we are over. But on facebook we are still in a relationship. (I don't know if she knows this) I have told her I sorry many times. I sent her flowers today and a note telling her I sorry, I know better than to act that way, and she didn't deserve it. I don't know if I need to try to call her one more time after she get the flowers or tell her I'll leave her alone and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2009): give her some time... if you're constantly trying to contact her she won't feel the need to contact you or even reply. Give her a week on her own without contacting her and give her a chance to miss you. After she's had time to think and be on her own she will most likely be waiting for your call and happy to hear from you. You're apology will be welcomed as she won't want the past week without you to be repeated. "Absence makes the heart grow fonder"... hope this helped! AM (16)
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (2 September 2009):
 If you have to rely on facebook to figure out you're in a relationship, then that's sad.
Its also sad that she couldn't call you and tell you her son was sick, or at least take 2 minutes to send you a text or any signal so that you wouldn't worry.
People forget that when you're in a relationship, communication is everything. If you don't tell each other what's going on and what you are thinking, or what you fear, etc., then there's no trust there. And it deteriorates very quickly.
Maybe if you get back in touch with her, after some apologizing, tell her you were really worried about her. Then, find out if her son is okay. Obviously a 2 year old child being sick is not welcome news to her, since she's his mother. The child is always going to take first priority.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2009): What you need to do my friend, is stop calling and sending flower and texts. You need to go and talk to her face to face. You were angry because she didn't reply right? Well tell her you were wrong for that because she isn't oblidged to reply you and you shouldn't have jumped to conclusions. I'm sure you've said this to her before but the key thing is to do it face to face and well and truly mean it. Mabe the reason you're still in a relationship on facebook is because she still likes you and is just pissed at you. Fix things.
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