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writes: Dear Cupid..... hi, i'm 16, i'm lesbian and i need a girlfriend! How do i meet someone??? i've crushed over loads of girls now, older and younger and i'm feeling really really horny a lot of the time. I touch myself a lot, but i want more now, do real stuff with someone. I get so lonely sometimes i could cry. I need to experience some emotional as well as sexual intimacy as well. I need a relationship badly. I cant talk to anyone as nobody knows i'm lesbian, and the thought of "coming out" really scares me (especially telling my parents) If i was seeing someone it would make it easier i think. I know i need to come out one day because people will start to think i'm not normal because i'm not ever with anyone. I dont want to use the internet because you're never really sure who you are talking to which makes me apprehensive and i'm too young to go to a lesbian bar, there are none local to me anyways. All the girls i know seem straight so if i ask one out that i fancy i might make a fool of myself. What can i do? The frustration is enormous.
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reader, HereToHelp223  +, writes (27 February 2011):
Hey at the moment im excatly like you but im bisexual no one really knows about the side of me that wants to be with a girl im about to be 15 and i understand 100% how your feel.i cant say you should just come out becase i haven't came out myself . i wish you the best of luck and if you ever want to talk or something send me a message .
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reader, Drat001  +, writes (24 February 2011):
"i need a girlfriend"
Actually, you need to find yourself, establish your path, and once you've begun the journey, you'll find the right companion. Rushing into a relationship before you're ready, before you have become the person you want to become, you should be come, then you are holding yourself back from becoming that person, and can even cause irrevocable harm. The Chinese say, only a fool tests the depth of the water with both feet. You don't "need a girlfriend." You need a girl friend, a guy friend, a group of friends who will support you, who will help you find yourself.
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reader, gaydating +, writes (23 February 2011):
I would recommend you to wait, I kinda had the same feeling when I was at your age Im gay btw...anyways, the best answer is to wait, come out and meet lesbians friends...because finding someone who is gay/lesbian is really hard when you are still in the closet...now that I'm coming out, I found out that a gay guy i had in one of my classes when I was in high school had a crush on me, I had a crush on him too, but I never talked to him because I was afraid people where going to find out I was gay...but now that I know he had a crush on me, I regret not telling him, but I just wasnt ready to come out...anyways, my advice wait til you are ready to come out, trust me, that will make it easier to find someone, plus is really hard to meet some one when you are in the closet, because you have the risk of having people find out you are lesbian from other ppl
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reader, dirtball +, writes (23 February 2011):
 Are there any colleges near you? Many colleges have gay and lesbian groups. They might be a good place to start if it's an option.
Knowing who is and isn't gay will be very difficult for you, probably one of the hardest parts of looking for someone while staying in the closet. Do you know any girls who have come out? Have you tried talking to them?
Often, when someone is out of the closet, people who are still hiding their sexuality will approach them for advice or dates. Of course, being openly gay is not easy either, but if you know someone like that, they might be of great help.
Just a couple of ideas, I hope they help.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (23 February 2011):
 Your situation is one that many young gay people face, too young for bars and not knowing many gay people if any at all.
Off topic i know, but when you do find someone dont just rush into bed with them, make sure you care anout them and they do you.
I know you said you dont want to use the net and i know there are downsides to the net, but if you use it safely it can be a good tool to meet people, even as freinds. If you can meet more gay friends then you will get introduced to more people that are gay.
Meeting people similar to you will help you when it comes to a time you want to come out, take your time with that there is no rush.
Hope this helps some.
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reader, unabletofly  +, writes (23 February 2011):
''and i'm too young to go to a lesbian bar,''
As u see you are so young to decide and act for ur sexual choice.
Please wait a little bit more.
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