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41-50,
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writes:Please, I need some help here! I like my boss, I like her a lot. I'm 32 and she is 36 both single, you might think that I'm crazy but I don't know, how did this happen to me. The thing is, I can't stop thinking about her. She works 24 hours a day very rich and has a PhD and I’m just an IT guy (network engineer) I’m not after her money at all so don’t get me wrong please, anyway it’s about 2 months that I've work for this company and we only met a few times. Finally I made my move last week when we were alone in the office. I sent her an email saying that I’m hungry would you like something to eat? She said yeah let’s go out and have something. She took me to an Italian restaurant, we had food and wine, we talked and talked. She started by asking me personal questions to see whether I’m married or have girlfriend,children.. and I asked her the same questions. She asked about my age and when I said I’m 32 she was surprised and said I thought you are 23 or 22!! She asked what my hobbies are and blah blah blah…Anyway the waiter brought our bill and she was about to pay but stopped her and I paid for our food and then she said next time I’ll pay! then she took my credit card and said is this your signature, how do I pronounce your family name (I have foreign family name) …..When we are on way back to the office to lock the doors and go home I told her: so you know me better now and she looked into my eyes and said yes and you know me better too and then we didn’t talk anymore.We went into the office and when I was about to go home she touched my hand and said I’m glad we went out and take care (I think that’s what she said!!! I was thinking about her on that moment I didn’t hear what she said)Now I don’t know what to do :( I like her, I want her but I’m too afraid to say anything. I was thinking to send a text message to her to say that I'm in trouble and I need to meet her. I think she will accept it and then I can take her out to say how I feel about her …Help me please, what should I do? Just to let you know that we are about 4 hours away from each other so if want to meet her in going to be 4 hours drive :)
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reader, Massy +, writes (30 May 2010):
Massy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks girls, of course you are right. However, it would be very hard for me to control my feelings but yes, I have no choice.
The only thing is, I don't want to lose her or wait so long before it's too late.
I'm going to be in her office this week again and yeah let see what happens..
Thanks.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (30 May 2010):
 Yeh, you need to play it cool here because if you start swooning after her she'll think you're desperate and no woman finds that attractive. Don't put her on a pedestal, talk to her as you would anybody, (don't treat her like a boss and kiss up to her basically).
She's just a woman, you're a man, period.
Don't make up transparent reasons to meet her because she'll see through it, only legitimate business reasons. Its going to take a while (in my opinion), to get to a point when you can safely tell her you like her so don't try to rush things. Keep looking/dating other women so you aren't pinning all your hopes on her because desperation will inevitably seep in.
You both had a connection and it'll be interesting to see if she treats you different the next time you both meet. Does she look at you more, does she initiate conversation, has her body language toward you changed...? Pay close attention and hopefully you'll know what move to make.
Or you could just invent a reason to call her, profess your love and see how that goes, but meh...
Best of luck :) Keep us informed!
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reader, Empressjai +, writes (30 May 2010):
 You need to be careful here and not come over as desperate because a woman can sense when a guy is too eager. There's no doubt in her mind that you like her but just because you went out for a meal there is nothing attached to that....it was a meal!! You got to know each other a little bit but really you both are very much still strangers. You need to control your feelings because you could rush in and blurt out all your emotions and ruin things. Patience gives you time to wait things out to see what move SHE makes next. You came forward and asked her out now you have to wait and see what happens next. If she wants to see you again she will let you know with her words and her actions. There's a lot at stake her for you both. If things turn sour you both have to work in the same place and will see each other so you have to start thinking and stop wanting and obsessing about her. Patience is what's needed right now not huge declarations of love which could in turn put her off.
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (30 May 2010):
 Try to control your feelings. She may take advantage of you and then leave you feeling embarassing and then you may have to leave your job. Let her do the running now. when you see her smile. Study her body language. Leae it for a few weeks. If she has not made a move again try asking her out for a drink and take it from there.
Keep us posted.
Good luck!
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