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writes:ok im a 15 year old girl.i really miss my ex boyfriend ( we have been separated nearly a year) and i cant get over him.we had been going out about 4 months when my depression got a lot worse and i ran away a few times. i had previously been depressed but not as bad. my boyfriend and i were really close, we liked the same music and we trusted each other ( well at least i thought). he was always the secretive type and wouldnt even let me know the names of his sisters or anything family related (i presumed he came from a bad family. i got fed up telling him everything about me and not getting anything back. then one night i ran away, only for a few hours, i was really, really upset.. when i got home i was so upset i broke up with him (after 11 months of dating) because i thought it would be better for us both if i could figure out my life on my own. he seemed ok with it at the time and i was really proud of him. he was my back up but i thought i could do it alone. He talked to me for a week after that like normal but then started to ignore me. he still ignores my every attempt.he says he too busy for talking. i really love him and want him back. what should i do?
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reader, SSS.  +, writes (30 May 2010):
 well everything happens for a reason.
and remember you dumped him.
he probably just doesn't want to be hurt anymore and you should respect that and move on.
you'll find someone new + break up with them and then another new person and break up with them, until you're about 20 something.
i know it doesn't seem like it now, but take it from someone who was dumped by someone who she thought absolutely loved her. you'll get over it. time heals all.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (30 May 2010):
 You really have to move on because there's nothing you can do to win him back. Just delete his number, facebook etc. get rid of anything in your room that reminds you of him and store it away out of sight. Work on your depression, stay active and learn to love yourself. If you can't love yourself then you can't expect somebody else to love you.
There are so many people out there that can make you happy in a relationship, there's no need to keep revisiting ex's, especially ex's who have moved on. You may as well be trying to light a fire in a puddle.
Best of luck :)
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reader, Empressjai +, writes (30 May 2010):
 What you need to do is get on with your own life. This boy doesn't want to be with you anymore and you need to be more realistic about your relationship in the past. One moment you say you were really close and then the next you day that he was secretive and wouldn't tell you his family members names. This sounds to me like someone who kept you outside of his life. You say that you trusted each other and them interjected that this is what you thought. It clearly shows that you didn't know this boy at all. If the two of you had sex then this is what you may be referring to as "really close". Sex doesn't bring you closer if you have no connection to begin with and this is what this seems like. Lots of people like the same music and talk to each other a lot but this doesn't mean that they are in a relationship. If you contact this boy i feel he will reject you because he is not that into you. 4 months is nothing that is just the stage where you should have been finding out if this boy is compatible with you in order to be your boyfriend and the boy would have been doing the same. He has gone and i don't think he will be coming back to you so the best thing you can do is to move on with your life and sort yourself out first before finding another boy to lean on. Get to know yourself first and what it is you are looking for in a boyfriend. Save yourself further heartache by putting him in the past.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (30 May 2010):
 If you initiate any contacts with him , he will spurn you . Realistically ,when a man is not interested in you , whatever you do will come to naught.
The only way to win him back is to ignore him and live your own life . Go out and have fun and find some other better man and show him that you are happy even without him.
This would put the onus back on him and he would think that he has missed something special .
All the while, he thinks you are too needy and would like to see you crawling and begging to be by his side.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): Maybe you should try to move on, get your mind occupied. If he's 'too busy to talk', this isn't true love.Or you could just leave him alone for awhile and wait till he's chill and ready to talk. Then you can tell him how you still feel for him and love him. If he wants to keep his profile low, then let it be. He might be shamed of something and afraid to lose you if you knew. But not everyone does something and gets something else in return. Good luck! :)
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