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writes:what do i have to do ???i am a 16 years old guy,i am a gay and i really love a guy in my school. unfortunately he is straight he is even horny and pervert when it comes to girls......the problem that i think that he hates me...he only calls me when it comes to studying...sometime he hangs out with..sometimes i try to make him know about my gayness and that i love him..but he is so slow!! or maybe he recognised but can`t do anything!!!!!to be a gay in my country is a taboo. my life will be destroyed if anyone knew about my secret, even my parents don`t know. i am afraid that i will be rejected...and am afraid that he will not even look at me. what do i have to do please i need help:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): when the guys gets up romatic mood...thats the time we should understant them to care and we must give affection among them..not only that the particular time...we should care each and every moment with love upto to live along with that person...truely
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reader, Lost in the Malestom  +, writes (12 December 2010):
 I have to agree with most of the other answers, and that while you may have a crush on this friend, he may be straight, and may not. My reccommendation is that you keep the friendship strong, but not come out to him, yet. There may come a time in the future when you find out more information, or he begins to understand your feelings, or his gay feelings for you may blossom. You can't force someone to be gay with you, no matter how much you may want it. I speak from experience, my best friend for the last 20 years started as a crush, and I suspected then that he may be gay, but I waited and found out that he wasn't. I just stood as his best man at his wedding. If I had ruined our friendship then, by taking it to the next level when it shouldn't have, then I would have regretted it to this day. While there are no laws in your country that protect gays, there are some organizations and areas in your country that you can be yourself, you may want to look into them.
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (9 December 2010):
you cant make someone love you when he/she doesn't
and as a straight guy if i had gay friend
and i knew that that he is interested in me sexually i well simply run away from him
so take care
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reader, mysticpurple +, writes (9 December 2010):
hi there
Sounds like you have a crush on this guy, but wishing this guy was gay will not make it happen.. unfortunately you will have to admire him from a distance any close relationship to this guy is truly not going to happen.. so why risk telling him and hurting yourself.
One day you will meet someone who is gay and will accept you for you are :)
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reader, schacm  +, writes (9 December 2010):
I don't think it has anything to do with you being gay , I think that it is the fact that you can't just make someone love you , and I know it is hard , but I do agree with what others are saying , you should try and move on :) , I know it's hard but life is long and there will be plenty more oppertunities for you to find love ;).
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010): If you don't think this guy is gay, and as it such a big taboo, then there is no real point in telling him. The thing is you can't make a straight guy love you, he is straight, just in the same way that a girl couldn't make you love her, because you are gay that is just the way it is.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (9 December 2010):
 I understand this is a very difficult situation for you given your country and your culture, but unfortunately you cannot "make" a straight guy love you. In cultures such as the United States, people are becoming more and more understanding when it comes to homosexuality, but that doesn't mean a straight guy can be "converted".
I'd say you have 2 choices. First choice is to tell this guy that you are gay and how you feel about him. The second choice is to stay quite, and keep your feelings to yourself.
Unfortunately I'm going to have to recommend, in my opinion, not saying anything to him and keeping quite. If he was giving you subtle signals that he MAY feel the same about you, even if they were small signals, then I'd say take a chance. But so far you are telling us this guy has shown absolutely no signs of being gay. In addition to that, he's shown you no signs that he actually likes you even as a friend. I don't see any reason to say anything to him, other than your feelings for him.
Sorry, but I think you need to move on.
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