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writes:Which do you think is more important? Marrying your best friend, or someone who is great in bed?
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (3 December 2009):
 The question is a sort...what come first? a chicken or egg?
friendship and sex are inseparable.
It is quite possible, I am saying possible in principle..that a prostitute can offer best sex in many terms, do it mean also that for this reason she is fit for friendship? Then what we should mean by friendship?
Friendship is the soil and and sex the seed that end up with heaven... is my final answer.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (2 December 2009):
 If made to choose, I choose best friend. You can create chemistry, but being best friends already means that you have some sort of chemistry already. It's crucial to be friends with the guy you end up marrying (and hopefully, he's great in the sack too), but if you just marry because of good sex and not based on a really good connection in every other department, the relationship is doomed, doomed, doomed.
Also, if you're best friends, you should feel fine about talking openly to each other, and with great communication can come great sex...
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (2 December 2009):
 Marrying your best friend who you have great sex with : )
I'm very lucky in that I have met someone who I love with all my heart, he is my best friend and we have fantastic sex. Hence why I know what we have is very special and I'm lucky to have found him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): If you marry your best friend then you are liable to end up cheating on him with the guy who is just great in bed.
If you marry the guy who is just great in bed then you are liable to end up divorced.
If you want to be happy then you need to find a balance of these two.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (2 December 2009):
 I am far more concerned that the woman I marry is my best friend in the end. I want to be able to share everything with her: my hopes and dreams, my fears and worries, my greatest joys, my interests (within reason), my humor, my deepest secrets, etc. I have to never tire of her company or the sound of her voice. We have to be able to talk, a lot. Compared to that, the sex just isn't as important.
Mind you, if there's NO sex or if it's just terribly unbalanced amounts of effort/giving, it rapidly becomes a big problem. But as long as the sex is passable, it's a back seat to the emotional connection.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo it doesn't. My intention was just to get viewpoints on what most people consider to be the most important aspects of a lasting relationship. Sorry for the poorly worded question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): This question does not get at he heart of the matter or why people marry. It is a lot more deep and complicated than best friend or great lay.
Sex in a relationship is about 10% of the relationship if it is good and satisfactory, it is about 90% of the relationship if it is not.
Friendship is the foundation of all romantic relationships and how well that friendship takes care of the needs of the people involved.
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reader, the1st1 +, writes (2 December 2009):
Friends work out better the majority of the time! If you friend isnt that great in bed, teach him a thing or two, let him know what you want! He wont be offended if you say it the right way.. And in the end, you'll get what you need and want!
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reader, ffogalilly +, writes (2 December 2009):
I wouldn't marry my best friend, that would be way too strange, like marrying my brother.
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reader, Mr Me +, writes (2 December 2009):
 What about someone you get along with? Some who you align with perfectly; whom you understand fully; whom you get along with well (there will be fights); someone who understands you; someone who shares interests in you and you guys genuinely have a good time together?I mean, my point here is that there are a lot of things you can consider when you are looking at someone for marriage. If I had to pick only from the two questions you put forth, then it would be the "best friend", because that means it is someone whom you are very compatible with. The two of you can always get better at making love ;)
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reader, magzdelgado +, writes (2 December 2009):
It depends who you are in love with.
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