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writes:My boss and I flirt on a day to day basis. Sometimes, the flirting is just fun, but other times, it is what I would consider more than flirting because of the gestures and body language he uses. He will cup my shoulders when walking past me, fidget with my hair, crack jokes with me, and then of course, there are the long stares--where I swear he is looking right into me. I have caught him cheking me out (my whole body, i.e. chest, lips and curves). Could I be just nice to look at or is there something more with this? Oh, I have also seen him stare at me as he grabbed his crotch as he sat down. This is making me crazy! I need to know!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): I have been in a similiar situation and experienced similiar behaviours although never had him grabbing his middle!
It became quite intense as I left the company but even after leaving and meeting him once the eyes were intense. I am still trying to decide where to take it as he has really grown on me.
If you really like him would you consider leaving the job and pursuing a relationship if he is free.
A relationship with the boss is not good whilse working together and will create bad feelings with staff. It was bad enough for me when staff started to suspect - although nothing happened.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): OP, we can't tell you if he's attracted to you. You're the one who sees him not us. You're an adult so just ask him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2011): He does not run his own business, nor is he married, nor am I. I just want to know for sure if he is interested before I make a move, otherwise, I'm gonna look like an idiot. I am highly attracted to him, I just need to know if he feels the same about me. My gut is saying yes, but I feel that I need someone elses opinion. Thanks, all.
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (12 February 2011):
He is a loser. No respect. I am telling you right now he is messing with you to have sex with you. It is inappropriate. He grabs his crotch???? Really??? Why does he feel that is okay? He has no respect for you now it is going to be very very hard for you to be taken seriously. I would cut out the flirtatious behavior immeadiately!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2011): Is he married?
Are you?
Either way, the way you are both behaving isn't exactly appropriate in a work environment.
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reader, AuntyMaur  +, writes (12 February 2011):
 I suspect you like him very much and he would sense this.
The flirting will continue until you stop it. Maybe you dont want to? the attention is very exciting isnt it? and he is attracted to you but remember this.....the other staff are watching and will notice which may cause issues. If he is married then all he is offering is sex and more than likely has been with others where you work. Think consequences - the results of sexual intimacy with this man -- is he worth it?
You will lose.
Single, married I would never mix business an pleasure because more often than not it's the woman who looses in the end even in this day n age. Dont sell yourself short get on with the job you were employed to do and focus.
Dont cross that line...by the way a Boss who behaves like this around / toward his staff is breaking work ethics. He could be charged with sexual haraassment. Only takes 1 complaint. Stop fueling his ego.
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (11 February 2011):
 More to the point.... are you comfortable with his behaviour, and if you are not is there someone you could report him to... I will not tolerate people who abuse their authority, so if this is the case then I suggest you speak to someone about it.
He does appear to be acting rather odd.. unless this is how he treats all his staff. However, if you are starting to wonder if he does fancy you and you like him too... stop for a minute and think where it could lead to... harmless flirting can sometimes be fun, but if he is out for just one thing then someone is going to get hurt... ie probably you... is he married? if so, don't even go there... Does he own the company you work for? again, don't even go there.. you will end up loosing your job when he has had his bit of fun and moved on..
I would seriously suggest you keep your head down and just do your job as you are paid to do. Good Luck!
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reader, Tiff1985  +, writes (11 February 2011):
It sounds to me like he is interested in you but because he is your boss he may be afraid to do anything more than flirt. I know I dont touch or flirt with someone that I am not interested in... But just remember there are boundries because he is your boss, just play it safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2011): sorry to be the bearer of bad news but if you value your job i would stay well away from work relationships,hes your boss,therefore decides if you stay there or not,trust me i know from experience these things never work.flirting never hurt anyone but anything further than that and this guys takin advantage of his power.good luck an i wish you all the best with whatever you choose to do.
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