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*organRenee
writes:Ok for a long while my cousin has tried to get me with her bf of two years' ((who I went to school with)) brother....and about a month and a half ago they introduced us. Turns out I went to school with the brother too. He had just dissappeared after a year and I never really saw him again. Well anyways the first night was akward and we didnt talk much...but the next day while he was running around with his brother we txted back and forth....then that night we had sex. Well twice then two times again that morning, but anyway, lol, who's counting? Well as time went on I figured out a little about him. Turns out he's talking to like 2 or 3 other girls. So I wasnt to confortable with that, considering that one of them is a complete and total hoe. But I didnt let it get to me at the time bc we were only friends. Well as time went on and me and him banging everyday/every other day. Well turns out now, I cant stop thinking about him. it's been a month and a half of me and him seeing each other just about every day, and even me getting pregnant by him and miscarrying {{mostly bc of stress}}. But what makes me fall in so deep is the little things he does, that he and his brother have told me he never does with any other girl. He kisses me and he said normally he hates kissing....after sex..and sometimes even if we dont have sex He sleeps with me and holds, cuddles, and kisses me...and from the way he hesitates at times, I can tell that his mind doesnt want him to but something else makes him.Then on top of that, the closest person to him {{his brother}} tells me all the time that he likes me. So I started talking about a relationship with him...and he says that he's not really ready to settle, but how do I know if he's worth waiting for? How do I know if he does decide to settle with me that he'll stay faithful?
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reader, MorganRenee +, writes (13 August 2008):
MorganRenee is verified as being by the original poster of the question Here's an update question to this one...it just what happened Monday.....
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/will-he-be-faithful-if-he-decides-im.html
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reader, myp +, writes (10 August 2008):
 haha i agree with bluntasaspoon, i normally wouldnt say keep on keepin on, but shes right, sounds lke hes fallin for you. The key with boys like that is to let them think everything is their idea... dont pressure him, let him come to you. as for the fidelity thing, you can only hope, and have faith and trust once you do hook him. if he does cheat then the obvious answer is to leave him, but he hasnt yet so dont dwell it, all i can say is once you do have him keep your eyes open, dont delude yourself and stick to your guns...
best of luck xx
-Myesha
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reader, kelleeashton +, writes (10 August 2008):
 You are in a tough situation, there is really no way of knowing for sure he will stay faithful. He does tell you he isn't ready to settle because he is not sure he can stay faithful and doesn't want to hurt you, so if he tells you he is ready to settle he is. He could "settle" with you now and cheat but he doesn't want to do that to you. He obviously cares for you and you are the only one who can decide if he is worth waiting for, how much does he mean to you? But be warned he may never be ready to settle and you just wasted your time, be prepared for that, or you could wait a little while and he realizes he wants to be with you. You just have to decide if you want to wait and take that chance. I say take the chance but it is up to you :) GOOD LUCK
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reader, MorganRenee +, writes (10 August 2008):
MorganRenee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell we usually go places together or just spend alone time at my cousins house...we watch movies together...he even walks to the park with me...and we talk and play around...
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reader, bluntasaspoon  +, writes (10 August 2008):
 ummmmmm i recon that u 2 should carry on the way u are for a while. now this goes against almost everything i believe in but for some reason i think that he may well be falling for u. i dont know why i am telling u this but its just a feeling i got from ur letter (bizzare i know) i think that this is one of those guys that needs to be broken into a relationship very gently, it sounds like he has been a bit of aa jack the lad in the past. my only worry is that all u 2 are doing is having sex, have u actually gone out for a meal, gone on any sort of date, or is it just the copious ammounts of sex? i recon that u definatly need to go easy on him and dont bring up the relationship thing for a while yet. i hope u keep us up to date
bluntasaspoon x
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