A
female
age
30-35,
*ust a Girl...
writes:Why am i soo scared?? Ive bin with my guy for nearly 5 months now n its goin great (I think) but im so scared all the time, so much co that i think wed be better off as friends because at least then feelings will wont get so hurt. i dunno is it that im scared or that i just want out?? xxx Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2007): my gf and i are in our first proper relationship and things were going really well but within the space of week everything's gone pear shaped. she said exactly the same thing and i'm really scared, i don't want to lose her i love her to bits. it's driving me crazy, i mean i keep punching stuff because i'm pissed off. i can't eat, enjoy myself or anything. i get this feeling in my stomach and i keep thinking of her and what shes thinking, what shes going to do next etc and i feel physically sick. i don't know what to do.
A
female
reader, Jendorset +, writes (11 June 2007):
Perhaps this fear is a fear of being hurt. I have this sometimes to, and i tell myself ''whatever happens will happen no matter what i do, so just enjoy yourself for now''. Its completely normal. But if this fear is of your boyfriend in general and your scared of him for whatever reason, maybe it is better to end it as you should always trust your gut instict. Message me if you want to talk x
...............................
A
male
reader, Jubbaloo +, writes (11 June 2007):
 Ok, from a guy who's only marginally older than you, i think you have to slow down and breathe. I'm guessing it is a very stresdful time for you, exams and such? Enjoy life, relationships shouldnt be the most important thing on your mind.
After you have breathed, think about if it would be possible to go back to being friends, or are you scared of losing him, maybe you need to talk to him about it.
Hope this helps
PM me if you want to talk more
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2007): Hi hun
you are scared because you love him by the sounds of things and when you experience this it can make you want to run for the hills. You think by ending it the feeling will go and wont be as strong... Your trying to protect yourself ive been there the feelings dont go away they are just as strong and you just end up really miserable without your fella around, well thats how i felt it was insecurity scared of being hurt again, i was wondering if you have been badly hurt in the past? You say things are going great, sweetheart it sounds so great your just scared to death of loosing it. do you think this may be it?
I hope this helped take care and lots of luck xxxxxxxx
...............................
|
