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writes:I have a girlfriend and a small selection of friends. I am not sure how to tell them that I think I am gay.I don't feel sexually attracted to any females and I do feel attracted to males, which is what has lead me to believe this.I don't want to hide myself from everyone but most of the people I know are very judgmental and therefore I don't know whether I should tell people.I guess what I'm asking is: What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, AvgGuy1  +, writes (26 February 2011):
 Well... Even though I think you might be a little young to be sure that you're gay you've obviously made up your mind and I congratulate you on being able to accept yourself to the point that you wish to continue on with the process of coming out by telling others.First, You're going to have to breakup with your girlfriend. You can outright just tell her look... it's not going to work out with us cause... I'm gay. Or you can gradually 'ween' her from you by becoming more and more distant from her and then just break it off with her.Generally you want to come out to someone whom you trust. Someone who's not going to go about blabbing to everyone else what you just told them. For this reason most people find it easiest to come out to family members first - if possible. Otherwise you have to go with best friends, then family.
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reader, the_phoenic +, writes (25 February 2011):
many straight people get attracted to the same sex when they were arround your age
i think it is still too early for you decide
Good Luck
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reader, leylaness +, writes (25 February 2011):
 Most people are worried about what others will think especially if they know they are judgmental. At the moment you don’t need to worry about telling people as you don’t know for sure yourself. Spend some time with friends maybe flirting with guys (if you feel ready to) then when you know and are comfortable with who you are then think about telling people. First off, only tell close friends. When you know you have a support group around you and feel comfortable, then you can tell others. But right now don’t worry about it, you’re still very young. I wish you all the best, and don’t worry what people say about you! You are perfect no matter if you’re gay or straight!! And don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011): if they don't like it then its their problem not yours. Be yourself. Good luck though!
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