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writes:pliz help i have a gal of mine so we have fought so i want to apologise to her so what are the spets to take so that i will not srew things up i love so much but it seems that she already have a boy friend and again im confused on the things to say in a relationship. Reply to this Question
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reader, Saamm  +, writes (14 January 2011):
I was kind of in the the same situation my best friend just stopped talking to ke when I had my boyfriend and at the time I didn't understand her she later on came to me and she apologized and I I accepted here apology if your friend is a true friend then she will understand Don't miss out in your friendship because u know she's going to need you to talk to. Take her to lunch or a Starbucks talk to her in person that way she will take your apology seriously:) good luck !!!
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reader, Abella +, writes (14 January 2011):
 if she already has a boyfriend then the respectful action to take is to back off, and wait until she signals that her existing relationship has concluded. That may or may not happen. Give it six months.
It could be mis-interpreted if you try approaching her, even if it is only to try to apologise to her. If you do see her in the stree then respectfully say hello, and as briefly as possible tell her you are sorry for what you did to upset her, and that you will respect that she is in a relationship. And will do nothing to disrupt that relationship. You don't have to tell her you like her, because she will determine how much you like her, by how respectfully you speak to her.
If she is still with her guy in another Six months, then you may have to accept that she is not for you. Obviously while you wait for her don't start another relationship, as that could
complicate things too much.
While you wait those six months, do
everything to keep yourself fit and healthy. And work or study hard. Whichever applies. While you wait out the
6 months.
And no excessive drinking and nothing illicit should be contemplated, either in that 6 months. If you want to impress her then live as you mean to go on. As a respectful clean living honorable man.
At the end of 6 months, if she does not want you, believe me - there will be other girls who will be interested.
If she sees you not trying to interest another girl, then that too will tell her more about you. In that you'd rather have no one, if you can't have her.
It can be more powerful to SAY NOTHING. But let your actions reveal your motives and feelings in actions, not a 1000 words.
Good luck.
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reader, EPocket  +, writes (14 January 2011):
 kinda missed up there ..
all u need is to go honest . as much as u can and things will go in the right way .
if she have another .. she is not urs then . u better move on .
if not she will admire ur honesty mate . we all do :)
make it as simple as u can and do not turn it into bigger thing . u want to apology go and tell her that u r sorry . feeling sorry abt something doesn't need anyone to explain it to u ..
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reader, diddycoy  +, writes (14 January 2011):
hi first i couldnt realy understand what you were trying to say ,so i got it right .you and your friend have fell out and you want to make it up to her ? your in love with her but she already has a fella..if thats right then first just come right out an tell her how your upset about hurting her if you cant say it right it or tex it..once she know,s and has forgive you for whatever you fell out about ,i would then be honest and tell her how you feel about her..dont put any pressure on her to choose between you an other fella just let her know you,r interested.if its a no go then just be happy with the frienship but if you start getting to be nasty to her cause your jealous then you,l have to distance yourself a little . if she decided to make a go of it with you , dont jump in head first keep it more on a friendly line to begin with..if she wont forgive you try again in a month if she still wont then put her to the back of your head and make some new friends..if she cares in anyway for you she should forgive xx good luck xx
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reader, AuntyMaur  +, writes (14 January 2011):
 Admitting to a mistake / apologising is always a good place to start in mending a relationship.
If this lady has already moved on in finding another boyfriend than I'm not sure what your chances are in getting her back - But I would still contact her, ask her if you can meet and apologise.
At least a friendship can be maintained if nothing else.
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reader, Princess Aunty  +, writes (14 January 2011):
Everyone has times when we do or say something inappropriate. Sometimes these actions strain the relationship between the parties involved. Here are tips on how to apologize.Apologize to the person when the two of you can speak privately. Offer to have a cup of coffee at a nearby restaurant. If you are a man and the offended person is a woman, then give her a single yellow rose, as it is a gesture of wanting to repair the relationship.Say the words, "I'm sorry for what I did" at the very beginning when you apologize. Do not offer any excuses for your behavior because it will detract from the genuineness of the apology.Apologize with a handwritten letter if it is not possible to apologize in person, using the same words as mentioned above. They should be the first words in the first sentence of the letter. Do not write a long letter. Write a short but heartfelt apology and then mail it.Analyze your behavior and realize why you acted the way that you did. Then set a goal of self-improvementAccept that the injured person may reject the apology, especially if you have been verbally abusive. Sometimes the pain runs deep and the other person needs time to heal. Step out of the picture and concentrate on self-improvement. You will have to demonstrate that you are a changed person by living a better life.Thank her if she accept your apology. Then explain what actions you will be taking to correct the situation.Work out a repayment plan if you have damaged personal property, regardless of whether the apology is accepted. Make repayment through a third party, if necessary. This will show strength of character and, with time, might help the person whom you hurt to heal, and later to possibly accept your apology.
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