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writes:Hi! This is a very shallow question but here it is. So, I'm getting married soon. Fiancé and I are going to pick up wedding bands this weekend. We both agreed we like them platinum, but I think I'd rather have it gold, you know, real yellow gold because the silvery colour of platinum is ambiguous whereas gold says "married" although it's a lot less fashionable. I know it's just a ring... but it makes me wonder, you know, after all it's not like any piece of jewelery, it's a real symbol. Fiancé says he likes it more in platinum because it's cooler and more modern and I agree, but gold screams "married!" and that's what we should go for, I think! What do you think? How did you pick you wedding bands? Thank you :)
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reader, misfitschik66  +, writes (1 August 2012):
 My husband and i have nightmare before Christmas matching bands..we did this because we wanted cheap and unique we put all our money into the ceremony and reception and everything else just didn't matter. We don't wear our NBC bands because we don't want to wear the paint off them so we keep them in the little coffin box and we went out a few months after the wedding and bought each other bands with money we had given to us as a gift and they are just simple bands his is platinum and mine is a thin white gold band with diamonds around it, they don't match at all
it's all in preference and your own personalities, you will be wearing this ring all the time so you want it to be something you like and feel comfortable wearing
as for a ring that screams married..as long as you have two bands on your ring finger everyone will know your married so i wouldn't worry about that to much
i hope you find the perfect ring and you have a wonderful wedding!
GOOD LUCK!
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (1 August 2012):
 Well my husband and I both liked gold so there was really no discussion there, and truthfully if I would have had my heart set on silver, or platinum he probably would have gone along without a problem. He never wears his ring anyhow and I think wedding bands mean more to women than they do to men anyhow. So think about whether or not he will actually wear his ring and then think about his opinion. Try on a few platinum versions and see if you might reconsider. Have him also try on some old one, maybe he'll reconsider. If he typically doesn't wear jewelry, it should be your call. Then again, if he likes the ring he picks out, maybe he'll actually wear it. Didn't work for me, but it might for you. My husband picked out the ring he really liked and it just happened to match mine, although they were purchased as a set. Does he ever wear it? Noooo, not unless I beg him to and then he grumbles. So hopefully you'll have better luck.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (31 July 2012):
 I picked simple gold bands that I could afford and which could be sized to fit.
Is there more to this than that?????
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (31 July 2012):
 My fiance wears a black diamond titanium band with blue writing. He will wear it as his wedding band too. My ring is a custom trigold band. So bands do not have to match or be gold. Most of the younger men I know prefer titanium to be honest
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reader, person12345 +, writes (31 July 2012):
 Why don't you each get the color you want? They don't have to match. Anyone who sees a plain metal band on your left hand will know you're married. Each of you should just get what's appealing.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (31 July 2012):
 ''gold screams "married!"
Lol...too funny!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2012): My fiancé proposed with his grans gold ring so I would only consider a gold wedding band in order for the rings to match. It's timeless where as other colours go in and out of fashion etc... Nice to be classic sometimes but it's something you and your fiancé need to chose, I would go for the same metal as the engagement ring you have though : )
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (31 July 2012):
 The ring screams 'married', not the colour of it. And why is 'screaming married' important anyway? Why is it so important to make it as obvious as possible? The traditional thing to do is actually for the man not to wear a wedding band, it should technically only be the female who wears the ring. So if I were you I would feel pleased that my man has agreed to wear a ring at all!
My boyfriend and I have discussed marriage and he wont wear a ring, his dad never wore one so he doesnt want to wear one either. I like the symbolism of the ring and wish he would wear one, but that is his choice so there is not a lot I can do!
Your partner is going to be wearing this every day of his life, so let him have what he wants - after all it is more important that he likes it. If he was forced into a gold one he might end up taking it off at times, and I'm sure that would upset you more than him wearing a platinum one. If you want a gold one then fine, but dont force him to wear something he doesnt like.
At the end of the day the most important thing is that you are saying your vows to each other and are commiting to each other for life, the colour of the ring is rather insignificant. The ring itself is the symbol, a symbol of unity and commitment - the colour is irrelevant.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (31 July 2012):
 When I was married gold was the tradition, and the only variation really available was 'white gold'.
Its your wedding ring, if you would prefer a gold one, discuss it with your future husband, there is no reason why you can't have gold and him his platinum.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2012): And here I thought wearing a ring on the ring finger of your left hand screamed "married!"...
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reader, agonyauntsanonymous +, writes (31 July 2012):
Im not married yet im engaged, but my fiancee said he wants to do it again because we didnt have a lot of money at the time. Anyways i think you should get what you like. It doesnt have to match as long as it is a symbol for your love. My fh likes titanium and wants a titanium ring with a red, blue or black design. I like heartshapes and i have always wanted a diamond for my wedding ring so hes considering that. So thats my personal opinion get what you both like.
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