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writes: Beeing togehter with my boyfriend 2 years and 5 month, how can I find out, if he is Mr.Right or not? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): Do you trust him with your life, your family, and your heart? Does he respect you, and do you respect him? Are you able to be yourself around him? Most importantly: Do you love him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): Here are 10 Ways to tell if he is Mr. Right or Mr. Wrong:
1. You absolutely know he wants you as much as you want him. If it's right, your feelings of love are reciprocal and mutual and not one-sided.
2. He walks into a room, and you just have to smile. You can't help it! And when you look at him, he's smiling at you.
3. You do kind and sweet things for each other just because you want to and not because you feel you have to. Doing them makes you both feel good--and special.
4. You are very secure in the relationship. There is no need for jealousy or suspicion. This is a drama-free zone. No one plays games or secretly tests the other.
5. He likes you for who you are and doesn't want to change you. Not only does he not make you feel bad about yourself, but also he boosts your self-esteem.
6. Life isn't perfect. You've had your ups and downs, but through it all, you have remained together with the relationship unshaken.
7. He has good friends, and you like who he is when he spends time with them.
8. He does not try to have power over you. There is absolutely no violence in the relationship.
9. He doesn't pressure you to do things you don't want to do.
10. The religious and personal beliefs, life goals and interests that make you different don't push you apart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2007): If a guy is really into you he will do anything for you. When I say anything I mean not just the occasional laundry. I mean that he will do anything. Anything that would make you be the happiest women on earth. Now also it has to be in his price range. He should be thoughtful and understanding of you. And just get you over all. He's obiously not the one if you have a hard time communicating because communication is key to a lasting relationship. When I say trip he could be thinking about a trip alone with you on the beach but when you say trip you meant with all your family...Someone is in for a surprise.. He will also talk about the future. When I say future I mean a future with you. Although you should never bring up the subject you could casually hint maybe to help him out a little bit. Does he see you as his wife? Does he want to spend the rest of his life with you? These are questions that he needs to think about. And when he knows he will tell you. If you feel like you would do anything for him and you see him in your future then you know what you want. But, for there to be a lifelong commitment of marriage. You both need to figure out what you want. Which would I assume each other! Good luck! I hope you find him or you already have!
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reader, xcharlottex  +, writes (7 May 2007):
Whoever said there was a mr. right? Perhaps some people are just better suited for some than others.but real indepth love is rare to find, and anyone would be lucky just to experience it once. every other love can be broken down it to different feelings,but if he makes you happy then that's all that matters.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2007): 20 years from now... can you see yourself with him?
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reader, AskEve +, writes (7 May 2007):
 If he is DEFINITELY Mr Right then you respect them for who they are, warts and all. You want to look after them and protect them, you look out for them and put them first. You feel happy and content in their company and enjoy being together. Above all you can be yourself when you're with them. You never try to be anything more or someone different because you don't need to. You don't have to impress them to win them over and you never have to play games to make them like you. There is trust and understanding on both sides and you feel safe and secure within yourself. You would never undermine them, they are not someone in whose company you feel threatened or small. They are someone with whom you can share your innermost thoughts and worries, a person with whom you should be able to share anything, they are your friend and your confidante and you can be honest with them at all times, you can tell them anything because they love you as you are.
He/she may be someone who is the direct opposite of you. On the surface you may seem like chalk and cheese. Whilst you may be loud and forceful they may be quiet and thoughtful. You may come from different backgrounds, different countries or be twenty years apart but this doesn't matter. There is an unspoken language between you, the spiritual connection between you both is so deep that you seem to be able to communicate without even speaking to each other. You are happy to lie in silence together. You feel sometimes that there is no need to talk because you feel that you know what they are thinking anyway. You feel so close to them that sometimes you think you could almost read their mind. You know when they are worried, in pain, or sad just by looking at them. It is as though there exists some kind of telepathy between you.
Real love stands the test of time, you laugh together, cry together and even have your differences but this doesn't matter, you love that person AND their failings. You come together in a crisis and work through things together and this just brings you closer. You take their feelings into consideration in all that you do. They are the most important person in your life!
Eve
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reader, JulietteElise  +, writes (7 May 2007):
 i think that everyone will always have some shadow of a doubt far back in their mind, esspically if they haven't dated too many people. however, if you are going to spend the rest of your life with someone, there are some things you both need to be combatible with, and so forth. Also, both of you should love eachother very deeply, and there needs to be complete trust in the other.what is it you have always wanted in a partner, weither it is things you think could be possable or not? when somone is "the one" they are ussualy very close to everything you had ever wanted, hoped, or dreamed, and even more. they will love you for who you are, and for the same things you love about yourself (such as personality, or certine intrests/activities, etc). They will not try to put you down often, or always be negitive. They will encourage you to persue your dreams and goals in life, and try their best to help you achive them. They will also give you time and encourage you to have time for your friends without them (part of the trust and loveing thing). Being with them, for the most part, makes you feel happy inside, even when you are sad because of them or mad at them. they are there through both the good times and the bad (since life isnt always an easy or happy thing). Though the "puppy dog" type of love and passion dousnt last beyond the beggining of the relationship (as you probably already know since you've dated this person a little over 2 years now) the love deepns and grows through the years. If being with the person makes you depressed or misserable, then they are not the one. If they are controling or possisive, they should not be the one. if you both fight often, and cant come easily to comprimises, then they are not the one. etc, etc.i belive you know deep in your heart weither or not a person you are with could be the one, so ask yourself what it is that you feel is lacking in your relationship to make you question? can it be something that can be worked on and fixed? as they say, comunication is vital to a relationship, so if you feel like you each have to always walk on eggshells around eachother, or find yourself lieing constenitly, then this is not a healthy relationship. please know that people will and can not change unless they themselves want to do so. so if you are thinking certine things will change in their behavior, etc, or are trying to change them (or they are trying to change you) then the relationship is not pure and cannot be succesfull. A good relationship naturally changes people for the better, without either person asking the other too. Far too many people stay in relationships that are "safe" but very mediocore, or are not really what they want but they think thats all they can have/get and then end up being misserable the rest of their lives or haveing ugly devorces. so even though brakeing up is extremly painfull, if you think you need to, do it before things get more drawn out and depressing. also, some people are very outgoing and highstrung and need to be around lots of people at a time, which might not always jive as well with introverts who like to relax and spend one on one time with people, so personality types in this respect is of some importance as well.here are some common things that a couple should either agree on or comprimise about before they are married:1. Where do you want to live? 2. How will you merge your finances? 3. How do you feel about religion and spirituality? 4. Do you plan to have children? 5. What role will extended family play in your relationship? 6. How do you feel about work/life balance? 7. How will you maintain your friendships? 8. How do you feel about health and nutrition? 9. What's your take on intimacy? (everyone has diffrent, but still important, needs)10. What kind of wedding do you want? overall, each person will treat eachother with respect, communicate openly, healthy ways to deal with arguments etc, spend a healthy amount of time both together and apart (with friends or oneself), trust, some romance and romantic things at least once and a while to keep the spark alive as well as for fun, equality in diffrent aspects of the relationship (like chores, as well as eachother opinions and values), and so forth.only you can know if this person is you want to spend the rest of your life with, if they are your dream come true, or if perhaps its time to move on.best wishes!!!
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reader, NJmomabear +, writes (6 May 2007):
 Does he put you first? Do you share common values? Do you both go the extra mile for each other? Do you feel secure and emotionally/mentally sound when your together? Has he talked about having any kind of future with you? Whats goin on there dear?
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