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writes:Well let me explain my situation. I'm 16 years old and i live in a house with my dad, mom, little sister and brother.My father has verbally attacked me and has struck me. He's even blacked my eye before. He doesn't take his aggression out on my 2 younger siblings, and the reason I haven't called 911 is due to the fear of them being taken from the home. I was wondering how to take a restraining order or warrant out on him.. Please help me.. Reply to this Question
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reader, Aylarsh +, writes (19 August 2008):
 I know what you are going through, and I sympathize for you. There is a hot line you can call, it's toll free so know one can know that you called.It's 18004484663
they will help you any way they can that you want them too.
Please call this number!!
Write back to us and tell us all how you are doing please.
I send my love to you, your mother, and your siblings.
You need to know it's not your fault for his wrong doing.
And you need to talk to your mother about this. Your mother is going to beat her self up and you need to tell her and confort her. By your own discretion decide about if to talk to your siblings. Call this youth crisis hotline and tell no one! You need to have a confidant that can help you. All you need to say
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell my grandpas in the hospital right now and Im with my grandma and my little brother has always stayed with my grandparents most his life. So he really isn't the one im worried about.My grandma thinks that he shouldnt have done it , but she figures theres nothing she can do about it just let me live with her until thinmgs cool down or until i graduate. the reason I want to take the restraiing order out on my dad is because he always acted this way toward me. Well when I was younger it was my mother, then when i started taking up for her (when i was about 11) he started taking it out on me. He has a serious problem and he truly needs help. I also find it funny that every fight my father and i have had, the cops always get called but he calls them and says that Im the one abusing him. Ill be sure that the next time it happens Im going to beat him to it. Does anyone know anything about emancipation?? If so plz help. And thank you bagsy..:) Ill keep that in mind.
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reader, bagsy81  +, writes (7 August 2008):
Have you asked your mother why? Has he always been like this with you or did it start when you became teen? it does sound to me like you love your family but are confused as to why you are being singled out. Your Mother should be doing more, I am sorry to say this but your mother should have taken you and your brothers and sister away from that enviroment the moment it first happened. You have been driven from your home even if you chose to leave (chances are you wouldn't have if your father never laid a finger on you. I am very curious as to what your grandparents make of this. I really feel that if you want to get a restraining order on your dad then things are getting very violent and if that is happening you should look to press charges before he starts on your brothers and sisters or even your mother. Now your not there that agression has got to come out some how and it normally will on someone else.
Please don't let what I ahve just said make you go back for fear of someone elses safety, your mother is the adult not you and she needs to find the strength to help her child. You are too young to carry this much responsibilty that is what parents are for.
Good Luck and know you are not alone even if it does feel like at times - I promise!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy mother does protect me. I just don't understand why my father acts this way. He's always shown hatred toward me. He treats my little brother and sister like gold. I moved to my grandmas house and so far everything is okay now. I was just checking incase something like this happens again.This time around Mom told him the next time he hits me shes kicking him out, but just incase i've decided to move to my grandparents house. Thank you guys for your advice I truly do appreciate it :))
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reader, topsy turvy +, writes (6 August 2008):
You know what? If your dad is hitting on you I would report it for fear that he may eventually begin hitting my younger siblings. I didnt hear you say rather he was drinking or not. I also would be more concerned about your mother not protecting me. Even if you provoke him to anger he shouldnt be giving you a black eye. I would in fact have a conversation with my mother about protecting me. Is there potential that he is also beating on your mother and she is afraid for herself. If this is the case maybe for her when he hits you he isnt hitting her. As a mother she should be protectiing you first. It sounds like you also need to be praying and asking God to help you with this one. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2008): Sorry babes, I'm not familar with USA laws. But it seems to me, you can't take out a restraining order if he's still living in the house with your mum. You might be able to go to the police however and have him arrested for assault. How dose he treat your mother, dose he beat her too? Talk to your mother about getting him out of the house once and for good. She should be thinking about divorce, it is not good for you or the other kids living in the house with this violent man.
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reader, cloudnine-andbeyond +, writes (6 August 2008):
 if you leave home at some point (which would be one way to solve it) would he start taking out his anger on your younger siblings? does your mum know? before you try anything like a restraining order see what your mum says. of it gets worse call childline or something similar (not sure what there is in the U.S.A) good luck! xxx
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (6 August 2008):
 Sweetie, I dont think that you can take out a restraining order against someone who lives in the same house as you..... here in my country you would have to lay a charge of assault against that person with the police then follow up with a restraining order..... have you spoken to your mom? Is there not an aunt that you can go and live with?
Honeygirl
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