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writes:The guy im dating lives overseas and im dating him online, we talk for hours everyday and he finally wants me to come see him in england. Im 19 and hes 21 i Know this could potentially be dangerous but i also know that it might not be. so how do i go about meeting him safely? Reply to this Question
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reader, soon567  +, writes (28 November 2010):
Have you chatted with his family and friends yet? have you seen this guy on camera? Does he have a facebook account that you may chat with whomever is listed? Is theirs away you can verified information he given you?
I use to watch justice files a lot and one of a predators ploy was to get you to meet them in public. Women are snatched from malls so that not good. You're off your turf and meeting in a foreign country. He should be very open to you and it should be him showing you that he's not a threat. If he has any problem I wouldn't go. Why isn't he's coming to you?
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reader, Millyyy  +, writes (28 November 2010):
Like CaringGuy said, you need to let someone know where you are going and it has to be in a safe, well lit place.
And it may be best if that person isn't far away from this meeting point. Also keep your phone on you and make sure that your friend has theirs on them at all times.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 November 2010):
You need to let people know that you're going, specifically to meet a man. And you probably need to tell someone who that man is. You also need to book into a hotel that has a good reputation, and ALWAYS meet this man in public places.
Basically, everyone needs to know where you're going and why, and you need to stay in safe places. That's about as much as you can do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): Take a holiday with several other friends - say you've decide you and a group want a holiday in London, and it would be great if he would come along for some of the time when you're there.
Just don't meet him in private or alone - stick to public places and take along a friend - it may seem odd if this is a guy you're 'dating', but don't treat meeting up as a date, and it gives you the chance to safely prove hes being genuine!
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reader, AuntyMaur  +, writes (28 November 2010):
 Sometimes people get caught up in the fantasy of the unknown - internet dating - you only really talk when the moods are right - its so easy to have your needs filfulled on line - only the good sides are felt - be sure to look at consquences - If he is serious about you he must come to you, do not go to him -if he does come he should stay in a hotel or the like to begin with just in casse you dont like each other in person.
Good luck
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reader, not fat +, writes (28 November 2010):
make him come to you. be safe
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