A
female
age
36-40,
*issTMath
writes:I was in a relationship with this man for 2 years. I was miserable practically the entire 2 years and tried everything I could to make it work. He lied too much, he would never discuss our problems with me, and he cheated on me (which he will never admit). During that 2 years we had 1 child and I was 4 months pregnant with our 2nd when I left him. He told me he wanted to work things out, but a couple days after I wouldn't give in or have sex with him he ignored my calls. He had something very important of mine and when I went to the house about 2 days after being ignored, he was sitting on the couch in his underwear and one of the women he cheated on me with (who he swore was "just a friend") was on the computer in her pjs! He had already moved her in! It is now November and I had the baby at the beginning of the month. This entire time we have been apart he has been telling me how much he loves me and wants to be with me and is always trying to have sex with me. I had been dealing with it just fine and didn't believe it or let it get to me and mess with my head and emotions. However, since I've had the baby I've been very sad. It's like I just left all over again. He comes over more now and keeps telling me all the same b.s. and I still don't buy it but it's messing with my emotions. I find myself getting jealous and angry over the situation. I know I still have feelings for him and love him even though I know don't ever want to get back with him. How do I completely get over him and just accept the turnout of this situation?
View related questions:
cheated on me, jealous, underwear Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, MissTMath +, writes (11 December 2010):
MissTMath is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your support! Every time the situation starts to bother me, I just read what you wrote and I am empowered! Thank you!
A
female
reader, petina1  +, writes (28 November 2010):
 You're defences are low because you have a new baby there and that can alter your hormones. Some women suffer from post natal depression, that sadness will be enhanced because you are not happy with the man. You have shown to move on with your life without him before and you will do it again. He is taking advantage of your weak demenour at the moment. Try not to get pregnant with him again as you get stronger because reading what you have written I know you have it in you to find the strength to go for what you really want in life. I'ts gonna take some time but the feelings are already kicking in with you. You don't trust him and have very good reason not to trust him. Either he is going to have a massive turnaround, realize what a lovely family he's got, or he's going to carry on as usual and destroy it all for himself. Be careful. Good Luck!
...............................
|
