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36-40,
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writes: I work away from home for long periods of time.Somebody recently told me that my wife cheated, she denies it, but it is plausable. I love my wife and she hasn't really lied to me, the other person has, but i still have doubts.For some reason, we have been finding flowers and bras under my windshield wipers, i have never cheated, nor do i know where this came from.My wife often doesn't tell me shit i believe i should know and it makes me mad when i find out.she believes my long time friend, a female i have known and been close to since grade school, and i have slept together, we haven't.my wife has hidden my electronics because i haven't paid enough attention to her.and once jumped on the hood of my car as i was trying to leave the house.also she has rammed her car into mine.when we first started dating after a few months i stopped and started seeing someone else then went back to her.we have many other trust issues. recently my wife was text messaging, i asked her who it was and i wouldn't tell me i grabbed her cell phone. it was a guy she gave a ride home to a few days prior while i was at work, i was curious why they had exchanged numbers, she started yelling and i held her down until she calmed down. She says i hit her. I didn't though i held her down more then i usually do, which i have done many times when she stands in front of the door and doesn't let me leave the house, or starts throwing things at me. she says i am over controlling and i say she is lying by ommission are either of us right. are we both wrong. She wants us to get a divorce. i know we have giant trust issues but we have a house together and i love her, i want to be with her, i want this to work, is there any thing we can do to save this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): get a divorce. you are being physically abusive to one another and there are issues here you cannot fix on your own. either seek counseling immediately or divorce lawyers.
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reader, AuntyMaur  +, writes (28 November 2010):
 Get out - trust is gone.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (28 November 2010):
 At this point I would advise relationship counseling. It sounds like both of you have trust issues and that resentments have built up in your marriage. I think only a professional can detangle this for you two. If she won't go, you go by yourself.
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reader, not fat +, writes (28 November 2010):
im sorry but this is crazy, you both are way over the line. dude be man and keep your hands to yourself.
and if i was in your shoes i would nd it with her, there no point with out trust
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