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writes:hihow do i convince this boy i like not to leave school because in the UK you can leave school and get a collage thing this summmer and i want him to least to stay on so i can know him better and be with him i just really dont want him to see him leave please please help me to find the words to convince him to stay.x Reply to this Question
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reader, Blod +, writes (27 October 2010):
 You can't force him to stay on at school if he doesn't want to, especially when your motives are purely so that you can get to know him. If you want to get to know him better, then you're going to have to think of other ways. Why not ask him to meet up outside of school? Or get his phone number? Or add him on Facebook or something? You could even just tell him that you like him. If you do something to catch his attention before he leaves then he might keep in touch with you or ask to meet up.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 October 2010):
You can't convince him not to leave. He may hate school, or may have a specific path that he wishes to take. You can't get in the way of his future, or you will get the blame.
If you want to get to know him, then you need to step up and tell him how you feel. Maybe when he leaves he will still keep in contact. But you can't realistically try to stop him from following the path he wants for the sake of you getting to know him better, when you can do it even if he does leave. Step up, tell him you'd like to get to know him more and see where it leads. But don't try to stop him following his dream.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): Hi
It sounds as though you are being a bit immature in trying to hold him back. If he's going to College to improve his chances of improving himself/getting a decent job, you should support him not try to hold him back.
BTW Its "College" and "Summer"..perhaps you should concentrate more on yr studies? :D
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (27 October 2010):
 I'm afraid there is nothing you can say to convince him to stay, and if you tried to stop him from leaving school you would only be doing it for selfish reasons, and that is wrong.
He has clearly made a decision to go to college, he is thinking about his future and wants to do this so he stands a better chance of getting a good job when he is older.
So you cannot hold him back just because you want to get to know him better, that is really unfair. He needs to do this college thing for his future, so you cannot ask him to ruin his future just because you like him and want to talk to him a bit more.
The summer is a long long way away for us lot here in the UK, you have at least until June with him which is 8 months away, that is plenty of time for you to get to know him better. And if you both really like each other at the end of term next year then it wont be that difficult to keep seeing each other, you will just have to meet up outside school. YOU are the only one that wants him to stay, purely because you like him and you want him to be around. That is not a good reason for someone to stay at school, just because another person wants them to! So dont be selfish and try and ruin his future, let him go and do what he needs to do.
Let him make his plans for his future education, it is his life and he knows what he is doing. Get to know him over the next 8 months and if you still like each other at the end of that well take it from there.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Maybe if you told him you liked him and asked him out he would be motivated to stay. Why not tell him what you're feeling?
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