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writes:IM A MALE/FRIENDS A FEMALEIve been desperately in love with my best friend for a year now. We started the relationship terrible as i came to find out that she was my best friends ex girlfriend. Then out of the blue as soon as i start talking to her, they got back together..Ive always had a thing for her and now i explain to her how i feel and she just gets upset with me and wants to friend zone me. What should i do about it. Because trying to get her to love me as anything more than a friend seems to just hurt more and more with each passing day.
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reader, goodguy11 +, writes (15 February 2010):
Oh have I been there done that. I was in love with my best friend for a year and a half. She knew I loved her and wanted get with her but she saw me as just a friend. Rejected me time after time. For a year and a half I was chasing her and she went out with about 7 guys in that span until I found someone else to like. Once that happened we talked less and seeing each other less because I was with the other girl. It wasn't till our first year in college she confessed her love to me and her sexual desires with me. But I had already moved on from her and I told her you had your chance. Never again would I be best friends with a girl.
My advice to you is to look for another girl. If there's any chance of you two hooking up its definitely not going to happen anytime soon so start seeing other girls. Good luck to you buddy.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (15 February 2010):
 She just got back with her b/f and definitely do not want to jeopardize her position vis a vis with her b/f.
It is hard to make her love you and it would be better you give up unless someday she breaks up with her present b/f.
The only way to win her love is to be better than her b/f.
Accept your destiny.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (15 February 2010):
She has made it clear that you are a friend and nothing more. The best thing you can do is move on. You're just waiting for something that can never happen, as she has made it clear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): only way to win her is to ignore her, show her that you dont care, even as hard as this sounds, you have to do it, persueing her will only push her away.
Do this - act like you dont care, dont love her, dont show her attention, find some other girl a trophy girl or watever and flaunt that infront of her, what else lets see.. oh and with the girl your in love with just be her freind but not to friendly, give it distance, dont always answer her questions, and in due time she should come around and be with you, however this does not work all the time but its the only chance you got! GOODLUCK
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reader, Spear  +, writes (15 February 2010):
Sorry to tell u this but ur allready in the friendzone do urself a favour and move on from this girl if it annoyes her so much as to get upset when u approach her in regards to a relationship with u there is no better sign of her absolute disinterest in a sexuall relationship with u nothing u do will make her fall 4 u.it sucks i know ive been there but the longer u persue her the worse things will get.so seek a lover elsewhere she doesnt want to sleep with u .move on now!
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