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writes:I met this girl in my college biology class. I remember the first time we met like it was yesterday and yet I can't seem to understand how it has been only 5 months. We clicked it off immediately. We were suppose to be studying but we'd chat about our lives and dreams. I found her intoxicating but she had a boyfriend.She knew from the moment she met me that I was attracted to her, and I knew she didn't share the feeling. It's easy to tell, her pupils didn't even dilate when she looked into my eyes. The more I've been around her, the more I love her. We know everything about each other, I can count the hairs on her head and recite her childhood. I know her perfumes like a man knows his way home and I am empty without them.Well, one day her boyfriend cheated on her (again) and she dumped him. I rushed to her side to comfort her and eventually ended up telling her how I felt. She said what I knew she would say, that she wasn't attracted to me, I wasn't what she wanted.She got back with her boyfriend and I cried and drank and hit the gym, rationalizing it was for my own benefit but it was really for her. The gym became my new home.Well, her boyfriend dumped her today, on Valentine's day. She called me crying and I sprinted to her faster than I've ever ran in my life. I held her against me and told her how wrong he was. How perfect she is in every way and reminded her of all of her achievements. I'd do anything for her. She looked at me, with tears still in her eyes, and told me how she's falling for me. I took her back to my place and we hugged, and tickled and had coffee with a friend at 2 am in the morning. She played footsie and I held her in my arms for hours, never wanting to let go. I walked her home after and while we hugged, nothing really happened. I would do anything for her. I only want to see her happy. This is why I'm here. She said she didnt want me, and we've turned it into a really good friendship. I'm worried she might want to turn it into something more.I have dreamed of it happening but I don't know if I, sa her friend, can allow it. I want her to have the perfect man. I don't know if I'll be enough. I don't know if this is a rebound thing and she doesn't know it or if she really is becoming attracted to the "nice guys" and my new looks. Nothing has happened yet. But if it does, what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Burns231  +, writes (15 February 2010):
Well when you say that "I want her to have the perfect man. I don't know if I'll be enough." my first thought was that it is her decision if you are the "perfect man" and if you are enough or not. She has to be the one to make that decision and if she said she is falling for you then it sounds like she made that choice...
I understand what you mean about if it is only a rebound thing or if she is just attracted to your new looks (I have been there myself with the rebound part). I would say that just hang in there and see what happens. I would think that if it was a rebound thing then she may not be acting the same way a week or so from now.
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