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writes:Recently a male friend of mine became my worst enemy when I turned down his proposal. Now he is spreading false rumours of the kind that I was in love with him. What shall I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (16 August 2016):
 If anyone asks you about the rumours - laugh and ask them back "Hey would a girl like me Really want to be with a guy like him??"
That should put an end to his stupid rumours! Shows how childish he is.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (15 August 2016):
 If anyone brings it up, say (laughing), "Well, if you heard it, it must be true!" and roll your eyes. Then don't give the subject importance by discussing it further. Take the conversation elsewhere.
He is a sad pathetic individual. I would also be tempted to tell him that.
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reader, Amycoffeegirl  +, writes (15 August 2016):
False rumors are terrible. I feel for you, it is horrible when someone intentionally creates hurtful feelings against someone.
Are the people, hearing the false rumors about you, actually people you care how they think of you?
If you care to, how difficult would it be to set these people straight to let them know what really happened?
In my opinion, you have to decide how to handle this situation for what is right for you. You can do nothing, or you can let people know the truth. But it is always up to you how important the situation is and how to handle it based on your own feelings.
Good luck on you decision.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 August 2016):
 I agree with Auntie BimBim
EVERY time someone brings up this rumor LAUGH it off - like it's the most ridiculous thing ever! By getting upset or worked up you more often confirm that rumor than deny it.
Who cares what this guy thinks? It's not like you can control it anyways. Nor what he does, says or feel. So best thing you can do is ignore, ignore, ignore. Roll your eyes if someone brings it up, and then change the subject. A week or a month from now there will be other juicy gossip about other people that will take up people's time.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (15 August 2016):
 People must be repeating the rumour for you to know about them, so there are several ways you could address this:
Ask your father or another male relative to tell him to stop
When people repeat the rumour to you, you could try saying "phht, he wishes!" or "in is dreams."
Or do nothing, these sorts of rumours often have a way to come back and bite the person who started it right on the bum!
Just wait it out, remember to let your parents or other older relative know what's going on in case the situation escalates and your former friend decides to make the rumours, or his actions, worse.
Good luck, hopefully it will al blow over soon
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2016): Ignore the rumors and if anyone asks tell them, "No. I was never in love with Adam. He's angry because I turned down his proposal."And to be honest, its a good thing you did! Can you image what kind of a husband he would be if you told him "no" during your marriage? Also, I guess he took your friendship as a courtship/relationship instead. I hate that men are so confused like that quite often.
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reader, Pureflame  +, writes (15 August 2016):
Ignore and laugh about it... Its not worth the time :)These things keep happening. If you give it too much importance it will only escalate. If someone asks you just laugh about it and be like "really, I had no idea" ;)Don't worry too much.Good luck.
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