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writes: Hi, Not too long ago i met a guy on 'hotornot' he was gorgeous so left a message telling him so. i was quite shocked to find out he was living in england, and this is a world wide website. Even more scarier was that he lived in the same county. When we got talking it was revealed he lived literally, a 5 minute walk from me.anyways we got talking about meeting up. after about 4 month of tlaking online we met up at a party, where we got incredibly well, even ended up kissing.We are now a couple, but he is 25 and im 16How do people feel about this, this isnt too much of an age gap is it? as some of my friend think its okay aslong as he respects me and my wishes, which he does.But i have some friends that call him names like a peadophile.I feel very comfortable with him, and he really seems amazing. a 8/9 year age gap isnt too bad is it?
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reader, honest eyes  +, writes (9 December 2008):
 i think there is an age gap 4 me but if i waz in ur position and we were both happy and comfortable with each other than i wouldn't see a problem with it. and as long as we respect each other and our relationship has trust understanding and respect than it's all good and as far as the friends thing goes they aren't u, u feel how u feel and they aren't going to change that
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): If youre the same maturity its fineIm dating a guy whos 26 and im 17Hes lovely and respects meIgnore your friends, what what i do!I always go for older guys- more sensible than our age!If he makes you happy and respects you i don't see a problem with it =]
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reader, Devilish Angel +, writes (18 March 2008):
 Who is going to be in this relationship? You or your immature friends? If you don't feel uncomfortable with it, then its no problem. You should tell your friends to stop calling him pedophile because he has feelings too and I bet they get hurt when he's being insulted.
I'm in a big age gap relationship also and I have no problem with it.
Good luck sweetie.
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reader, Lovesick24 +, writes (18 March 2008):
 What is age, anyway? Is it a number? Is it a title? Is it another name that we have to be known by? Or is it a mask? I don't think that something so uncertain should realy matter as far as love goes. If you really like this guy you should stick with him.
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reader, SouthernBelle +, writes (18 March 2008):
 Legal age of consent in the UK, as well as many states in the US is 16. So lets say you are 16 and dating a guy who is 30, legally there is nothing that can be said or done. Does that mean that its appropriate, no. I think that a 9 year age gap is alot diffrent say if you are 20 and he's 29 but not 16 and 25. I admit that sounds a little hypocritical but think of it this way. You are a teenager at one stage in your life, he is an adult at a diffrent stage in his life. If your friends are okay with it, do really think your parents will be? I am not here to tell you its right or wrong, its your decision. I just think you should sit back and really look at the situation.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 March 2008):
 I understand that there is a law on age differences. I don't know where you live, so I can't say anything but mentioning this fact.
See beyond the illegal, however. Think whether you are in the same stage of life. Eight years is not a huge age gap if one of the members of the couple is 38 and the other is 30. It is even less important if one is 68 and the other is 60. But it sure matters at younger ages. However, this is for you to decide.
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reader, green-eyed-girl +, writes (17 March 2008):
green-eyed-girl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys,
well as a response to the 'illegal' matters. i dont believe it is illegal as im 16 now, the legal age for sex. i dont think there is a age difference law is there?
but thank you all for your responses, helps out alot. :] x
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reader, blueykisses  +, writes (17 March 2008):
well age is just a number long as you know where you stand me and my fiance are 15 years apart and we couldnt be more happy but people do say some pretty mean things
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reader, sexi  +, writes (17 March 2008):
 Hi Swty
My bf and i are 11 years apart and everything is great. I think aga is what you make it to be. I dont think anything is wrong. This relationship is the best that i have ever been in.
Regards,mail me if you wanna talk
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reader, barcode12  +, writes (17 March 2008):
 age is never a barrier in a relationship. as long as you're happy and he showers you with all the love you need is okay to go on. don't let what people say affect you. =) gd luck!
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (17 March 2008):
I have a different opinion. A friend of mine was involved with a woman nine years older, but they were both adults, legally and otherwise. Here, you have an adult who is dating a teen-ager. That is illegal, for starters. But let's leave legalities aside. Maybe you don't know it yet, because you're very young, but life has stages, and he isn't in the same stage as you. There is a very big chance that he will end up using you. If you allow me a license, you're a beautiful forbidden flower, and he picked it.
I think it's likely that you will end up heartbroken. I can't recommend you date this man at your young age. And I'm sure he knows he shouldn't be dating you.
Take care.
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reader, Lovesick24 +, writes (17 March 2008):
That's not a bad age difference at all. My parents have a 12 year gap, my mother the younger. They get along great, they never fight or anything.
Sincerly,
Lovesick
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (17 March 2008):
 As long as he respects your wishes, and as long as you love him and he loves you, I say, go for it!!!!!
Tell your friends to stop being so jealous that you snagged such a hottie!!!! lol
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