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writes:Ok well basically im 15 nearly 16. 5 months ago i moved from england to canada. i have moved so much in my life and i finally lived somewhere where i had the most amazing friends, family and school and it all fell apart when i moved here. so my question is how do i cope with everything, i cry every night, im unhappy, i bottle all my feelings up because if i say them it will end up in an argument, schools tough, theres alot more students and its much harder to make friends i talk to a few people but i feel like i dont fit in, everybody already has there groups of friends. i do try but its just not the same. I hear certain songs and i will burst into tears, its horrible i miss my old life, i miss my friends, my social life, my family and no-one seems to understand they say im lucky and it will take time, i understand that but its been a long time already and i just want to get back to england. i realize i was the happiest ive ever been when i was back home and now im here its the unhappiest ive ever been. I just need some advice on how to cope with it all, and try to make things better because everything i do doesnt seem to work. anything would be appreciated! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thanks for all the advice and i have joined a couple of clubs but its still so hard, and blonde68 i do try to be an adult and i do talk to my parents, the thing is we moved here because my mother got married to a canadian man, and that meant we had to move over here after they said i could saty in england several times, so i do try to talk to them and tell them how i feel and they say you dont need to act like your happy you shouldnt bottle things up but then when i sit down and tell them how i feel and how they dont understand how hard it is for me it ends up in an argument and thats why i do bottle them up because i dont like the arguments its easier to keep my mouth shut and keep the peace, but thank you all so much for your advice ill definately take it on board!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): OMG it must be horrible id hate it if i moved away from friends and people . Liking caring guy said you need to tell someone about htese feelings and they maybe be able to help. if u dont ur problem will just keep gettin worse and youll be bottling everything up :)
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 January 2011):
You need to talk to someone - parent or counsellor, or teacher - about how you're feeling. The worst thing to do is to bottle up your feelings, because all you're doing is then bursting into tears. You need to confront the issue of this move, and that means talking to someone who can help you with it. I would also suggest talking to a few of those students that you're closer too, and explain to them that you're feeling a bit alone because of your move and would like to do more with them. Hopefully they'll be receptive towards it.
But the most important thing is that you tell someone you're unhappy. The problem won't go away unless you do.
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (22 January 2011):
Five months may appear a long time to you but it isn't really, it can take quite sometime to settle in somewhere, whether it be a new country, school, even a job when you are an adult. We humans don't like change and all struggle.
I take it you have moved there with your parents?? Have you discussed your feelings with them? Bottling things up is just going to make matters worse for you, and my advice is, try and be adult about it, don't shout at them for moving you to another country as I am sure they have valid reasons for moving....You need to tell them how home sick you are feeling.
Are there any interests that you have? Could you join some clubs and meet people of similar age to you?
Hang in there.... it will get better with time! x
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reader, impatientlywaiting  +, writes (22 January 2011):
Unfortunately time/patience seems to be the answer. You're pretty young to be moving around by yourself so you'll just have to wait until you're old enough to move back. In the meantime, try to find a friend. I moved around a lot too my whole life and I found it so difficult to make friends that I just gave up sometimes. Its a tricky business to find new friends at your age. One solution for friends can be to find a hobby. For example, if you like to knit, find a knitting club near you, if you like to read, find a book club or library, if you like sports, find a team, join some clubs at your school too. When you are around people that enjoy the same hobbies or activities, you will have something to talk about! The biggest issue with your unhappiness should be discussed with your family, but once you start making friends, your unhappiness will turn into happiness! Good luck!
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (22 January 2011):
 I'm so sorry :(( The best advice I can give is to try to be out there and make friends. Try finding clubs that you're interested in or joining a class outside of school. People with common interests will make great friends. And don't lose contact with your old friends either!! Try to make yourself happy, and with your happiness will come your glow, and that will help you make more friends.
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