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Don't know where I stand with her... is she testing me?

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Question - (6 November 2008) 1 Answers - (Newest, 13 November 2008)
A male United States age 41-50, *oeypsu writes:

Hi Everyone,

I have been dating this girl (# 1) (28 years old) for 8 months. Months ago she basically said only friend status. Days later from that she went on vacation and I met another women. I dated her (lets call her # 2) for a couple months and she moved away. #1 knew all about her. I still kept in touch with #1 while with # 2.

I started seeing #1 more frequently. She is not one to talk about feelings. She's been burnt a few times and said she's in no rush.

Is she testing me?

Last week Wed night she kinda blew me off. Said she was tired. Then Thursday night the same thing. Friday came and I thought to myself, Is she trying to get a harsh reaction from me? Since we're just dating I don't think I can be harsh about it. I finally texted her in the afternoon(Friday) and did not even mention the past two nights. Like it never happened. Is that the correct response from me?

Friday night (Halloween) she stayed over for the first time. No sex... but everything else.

Did she stay over Friday because I did not respond harsh to the Wed., Thurs. blow off?

Thursday - a week later she sent me a link with all her pictures from Halloween. There was a picture from last Wed night (when she blew me off and said she was not going out) She was dressed up with friends.

Again, she knows I remember this. Is she testing me?

Do I say nothing?

Better question is .. How do I finally have sex with her to conquer this thing?

Thanks for all the help.

I'm 31 years old.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2008):

heard of "she's just not that into you"?

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