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*ikkii Babyee
writes:Hiiyah! I've Been best friends with this guy for about 3 years now and i can honestly say that i love him to pieces but we've started to drift apart recently and i hate that! :( A while back before i was going with my last boyfriend i started to feel this weird feelings about my best friend like tingles in my tummy and i didnt know what was happening! We've drifted aprt soo much but since that's happened i've grown to like him more! he sees me as a little sister so what am i meant to do? i think i love him as in more than friends but if i tell him i'm afraid it will ruin everything! a couple of my close friends have told me that they can see us getting married and i've even started to think about that! am i going down a dead end road??
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reader, kimblebee90 +, writes (27 April 2008):
 I have been here before.. I got my feelings out into the open and just told him how I felt. The feelings were returned and we were inseperable for a few years.. then things started to change and we split up, and I was left regretting evrything. This may not be the case for you, but in the end things got better and over time we r still good friends, just not best friends anymore. So are you willing to risk what you have? It may not turn out so good as it did for me. But yeah life is about taking risks and I am glad that I took this one so maybe you will too. He seems like the kind of guy that will understand no matter what his feelings are towards you.
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reader, Nikkii Babyee +, writes (27 April 2008):
Nikkii Babyee is verified as being by the original poster of the question awk fanx for all yer comments :) gona just have a wee think for a while and see what to do! mybe get together do something and take it from there :)
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reader, Deema +, writes (27 April 2008):
 Oooooh dodgy one this. It happened to my daughter. Her best friend was also a very gorgeous man. He was her helper in time of need, shoulder to cry on, etc etc. But at that time she had a boyfriend. Then she split up with him and her friend was there, supporting and helping her through it. I knew she had always fancied him, but maybe the vulnerability of losing her long term relationship made him so much more appealing because he was there for her, or maybe she just plain fancied him but wasn't free to do so before. Anyway, she was just like you, saying she wanted to tell him how she felt, but scared the friendship would end. That went on for a few weeks and then one night she just decided to go for it, and told him how she felt, and I think he was quite flattered and responded. They ended up in the sack, and then unfortunately things went downhill and he moved to another part of the country without really any contact with her. It was very sad for her especially as she had just lost her boyfriend too, and now her best friend. But she got over it, she survived as we always do. So, I don't know what I say to you. Do you get any vibes from him that he's interested in any way other than friends (I personally believe men always are interested in more than friendship - but thats from my own experience). I guess if you don't sound him out you'll never know, but I do understand how tough that is. I told my daughter to go for it, so I guess I'd tell you the same ...... nothing ventured, nothing gained. It may well turn out just how you want it to, and if it doesn't ...... so what? You'll survive and a new best friend will emerge. They always do. Take care and good luck.
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reader, salvation +, writes (27 April 2008):
it sounds like he is the understanding type of guy so if you just talk to him and tell him how you have been feeling lately he should understand right?
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reader, salvation +, writes (27 April 2008):
yea i know what you mean but to me thats what lifes about taking risks yea it could ruin things or he could just not be effected at all and you continue to be friends or you end up with a great guy and an amazing relationship
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (27 April 2008):
 To be honest i've been in that situation twice, where i had a close guy friend and started thinking i was in love with him. On one occassion it was when we began drifting apart, with the other guy it was when he started getting serious about his girlfriend. I can only put it down to missing them when i wasnt seeing them as much and get my feelings all mixed up because after a month or so i didnt feel the same. I wouldnt tell him how you feel if its just a case of you "think" you love him, its not worth it until you have given yourself enough time and space to figure out if you do or not. You dont want to tell the guy you're in love with him just for him to get freaked out and run miles, then discover you were wrong about how you felt and the whole thing was over nothing.
If you miss him give him a call or a text and ask if he wants to hang out, if you were that close then he undoubtedly misses speaking to you too.
Brooke
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reader, Nikkii Babyee +, writes (27 April 2008):
Nikkii Babyee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah i really like the sound of yer suggestion there but i am just so scared because i dont want to lose him altogether! hes a guy that really likes his times with the lads and with me i feel that he really opens up and he can trust me but i dont want him to think that iv tookadvantage of our situation and think i can get a relationship out if it dya know wat i mean?
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reader, salvation +, writes (27 April 2008):
maybe your drifting because he likes you too and doesnt want to act on it i have done that before with someone i was close with i think you should talk to him about it get your feelings out go the open if you need to talk pm me
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