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writes:me and my fiance have been having a lot of pathetic arguments lately due to trust issues,i ended it 2 wks ago after 10 days of no contact he txt me and asked me to marry him which i said yes as i love him just as much as i thought he loved me.this morning he was taking his son to the airport and the next thing i got a msg telling me he was on his way to jamaica,i cant get my head around the fact that he just went and he kept this hidden from me for at least a month,even spent last night together after we went clubbing and everything was fine im so lost and confused and scared as his x wife lives in jamaica with his daughter and she wants him back even though he said never would he go back to her,we also have a 3yr son
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): First,its easy to start calling him without hearing his side of things. He musnt have thought he could tell you and as he did at the last minute which shows he wanted you to know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): I would ignore the answers you have had as unhelpful,whoever meets these very young women beware of these bitter souls as you have been judged by their own failing relationships! I think he probably was scared of telling you and thought you may have given him a hard time because his x lives there.What i see is maybe he wanted to see his daughter,his x wife is x,if she wants him back then it could be that she wouldnt allow him to see her if you was with him. He sent a message so obviously he did want you to know.I think if he was getting freaky with his ex wife he would have lied and said he was going elsewhere. I may be right or wrong,but the fact he messaged you makes me think his kid was the reason he went. Would you not want to see your kid if he/she lived abroad? Hope i have helped and you sort it out.
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reader, Katy-Conners +, writes (27 April 2008):
 Hi There.
Obviously This Man Does Not Have Any Respect For You, He Will Just Try To Ensure You Wrapped Around His Little Finger So That He Can Pick You Back Up Whenever He Feels Like It. Honey, I Understand That You Love This Man, And Your Gonna Want The Best For Your Son, But Do You Think It Is A Good Idea To Be With Someone Who Right Until The Moment He Leaves The House Doesn't Tell You He's Leaving The Country?
If He Really Wanted You Back That Desperatly, He Would Be Scared To Lose You Again, And With His Ex Wife Living In Jamaica, Im Sure He Would Want To Be 100& Sure You Weren't Worried Anything Would Happen And Would Have Talked You Through The Whole Trip.
I Think You Need To Leave This Idiot, For Good This Time, And Find Yourself A Better Partner, The Type You And Your Son Deserve.
Best Of Luck. Stay Strong.
Katy xxx
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reader, Katy-Conners +, writes (27 April 2008):
Hi There.
Obviously This Man Does Not Have Any Respect For You, He Will Just Try To Ensure You Wrapped Around His Little Finger So That He Can Pick You Back Up Whenever He Feels Like It. Honey, I Understand That You Love This Man, And Your Gonna Want The Best For Your Son, But Do You Think It Is A Good Idea To Be With Someone Who Right Until The Moment He Leaves The House Doesn't Tell You He's Leaving The Country?
If He Really Wanted You Back That Desperatly, He Would Be Scared To Lose You Again, And With His Ex Wife Living In Jamaica, Im Sure He Would Want To Be 100& Sure You Weren't Worried Anything Would Happen And Would Have Talked You Through The Whole Trip.
I Think You Need To Leave This Idiot, For Good This Time, And Find Yourself A Better Partner, The Type You And Your Son Deserve.
Best Of Luck. Stay Strong.
Katy xxx
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reader, Deema +, writes (27 April 2008):
 Pow !!!! Thats a big shock. He's there one minute and not the next, your head must be really messed up. But I bet the thing thats bothering you most is that he had this planned in his head all along and you had no idea about it, so then you ask yourself what other little schemes and plans are lurking up there that you don't know about. I know, I've been there. And you are right it is a trust issue, but you said you already had trust issues with him before this, so I guess your instincts were kicking in then telling you something wasn't right here. Question really is - and its one I am trying to deal with myself - do you love him enough (and he you) to overcome these issues with a lot of time and hard work from him to show he can be trusted, or do you just know you don't want to spend the rest of your days wondering what he's up to, where he is, etc. etc. A book I read when I was trying to make the decision said ' the answer that gives you peace is the one to go with'. Only you know that one darling, but sorry you had such a shit time. You deserve better. Good luck.
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reader, misty_2008 +, writes (27 April 2008):
This is a very unfortunate event. You must really love him to accepted his proposal, on the other hand you have to take in consideration that he dosen't think much of you to get up and leave. If i was you I would just leave him alone and don't get in contact with him. Its his loss at the end of the day.
Hope ive helped.
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