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anonymous
writes:there is this boy i realy like and i told him but he said he has a girlfriend but now on facebook his relationship status says in an open relationship does that mean he could stay with his girlfriend and go out with me?
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reader, straight to the truth  +, writes (17 December 2010):
Ok lets address the real problem here, this boy has a girlfriend and that is not you so why are you trying to date him when you know he is seeing someone else.
even if he wants to be in an open relationship it doesn't mean his girlfriend does and there is you offering yourself to him as a no strings attached thing to use as he pleases.
put yourself in his girlfriends shoes, if you were dating him and some other girl was lingering around him trying to lure him in as well I am sure you wouldn't be happy, you would be pretty upset.
Have respect for their relationship and if they break up then fine but until them dont be used and dont break up other peoples relationships.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (16 December 2010):
 Well, if he truly is in an open relationship and allowed to date other girls while with his girlfriend, then yes he COULD, but don't you want more than that? You say that you really like him. Doesn't that mean you want to DATE him, not just be a girl he uses before going back to his primary girlfriend? If he's even the sort to be in open relationships in the first place, he's automatically not good enough for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): I wouldn't trust Facebook. Chances are someone may have changed it as a joke. People do it to there friends to joke so their girlfriend or boyfriend fat annoyed at them. You'll have to check for sure. Also in open relationships normally it's not dating they do with other people, it's a sexual thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): Yes...that is what an open relationship means...that both parties (if agreed upon) are allowed to date, have relationships or have sex with others. If he is having an open relationship, he might not be that into his current girlfriend or visa versa...who knows, but please and I repeat please do not go into this situation thinking that he will leave his current gf for you, that he will commit to you, that he will fall head over heels for you....it might happen and it might not...who knows, but just stay level headed and see the situation as is. If this open relationship thing is ok with you for now, the go for it, if you want something more solid, then don't. It's that simple.
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reader, Weeble +, writes (16 December 2010):
The short answer: yes, he will date multiple people.
The longer answer: how would you feel knowing he can't come around one evening because he's with her? How do you feel about 'your boyfriend' making out with another woman? How about the slow dance at a party, sitting out and watching him dance with her?
If you're at all a jealous person, this is not the relationship for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): Hello,
You sound as though you really like this boy, but, he is already seeing a girl, and NO girl should be part of group of girls all seeing and dating the same boy.
This is really not nice for YOU, and nor is it nice for his girlfriend, I hope she knows he has stated he's in a open relationship on facebook. Please be careful, you don't want to end up getting keen on this boy when he has no intentions of having a proper girlfriend. He sounds to me as though he's playing around a bit. I hope he's not a lot older than you,as you don't mention anything about his age.
Jilly
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reader, CJH +, writes (16 December 2010):
 Regardless of his Facebook status, you should evaluate things here for yourself.
Do you really want to be in this kind of relationship at your age sweetheart? Think about giving this guy a miss unless he is prepared to dedicate himself to you rather than multiple partners.
Open relationships are fine for people who want them but, please dont take this the wrong way, at your age, I doubt very much that you want this.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (16 December 2010):
 Yup. True open relationships mean you can both date other people. Be careful with this though. Can you handle sharing him? If you can't, then you should avoid him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): Didn't he already say he's got a girlfriend when you told him that you liked him?
You got your answer...He's not into it..
And as far as open relationship is concerned,do u really want to be with a guy who wants to be in a relationship like that?think about...
Respect yourself,sweetie...there are lots of better guys out there..:-)
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