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writes: im 19 and have been with my partner for almost 4 years we have a 2 year old daughter but since being with him he has givin me 2 stds in a result of cheating on me he has just narrowly missed a prison sentence for beating me badly its not the first time he did it but its the first time his been to court i changed my story at the last minute because the thought of him being in prison made me ill he wouldnt have coped i love him and beileve his changed but my family hate him im not sure what to do anymore?
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reader, Sis6372 +, writes (9 May 2006):
GET OUT! Unless you want to have your daughter resent you. My roommate used to think it was alright her husband beat her, she wouldn't send him to jail because she loved him and they had kids. Well that all changed one day when he was standing in fornt of her car pointing a shotgun at her and her baby. There would be nothing worse than looking down the barrel of a gun to make you realize you should have left sooner. Now he's going to prison for a while. Don't be that girl, don't wait until its too late, do something now. If not for you then do it for your little girl.
Love is a strong emotion, I KNOW, but its not worth your life or your beautiful daughters life. GOOD LUCK!
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reader, bonym  +, writes (8 May 2006):
 Hold on let me just check that I was not imagining things, your boyfriend has given you to STI's, he has beaten you and you are stil with him because? well? I know you have a child, but this partner of yours is one snippet short of being a COMPLETE loser. He already is a loser, but if you let him treat you any worse he will qualify as a complete and utter jerk. I cannot understand why you are allowing yourself to be treated like this, its ridiculous, stop being a victim and get rid of this man. xXx
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reader, iamsoscrewedup333 +, writes (8 May 2006):
Umm, Hello, get rid of him and NOW
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reader, soletshearit +, writes (8 May 2006):
 You need to get yourself some help...if not for yourself for your child.He doesn't deserve for you to lie for him in court when he has abused you the way he has...its not healthy for you or your child to be living in this situation, please get yourself some help, its a very hard thing to do but you need to think of your kid. If he is violent with you, what happens when his violence turns to the child? Get away, you should never be afraid of your partner, aggressive and violent behaviour is unacceptable, you are better than that.
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reader, ~*~AngelOfMusic~*~ +, writes (8 May 2006):
I'm very sorry to hear about this guy of yours,
You need to gather some confidence, you have a daughter to look after, what you need to do is get this guy out of your life. If he's beaten you and given you STD's for cheating, he isn't worth it!
Guys like this are very insecure and reputation greedy, make a fresh start, go out with some girlfriends, give your self a new look! Listen he's just a guy and he isn't worth giving yourself up for,
But you shouldn't have changed your story in court, that was a bad thing to do! He's obviously made a dramatic effect on you and your daughter! Look yourself in the mirror and see yourself as the wonderful person you probably are!
Lauren
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reader, Clarey +, writes (8 May 2006):
 You need to get in touch with Refuge
www.refuge.org.uk
Or a similar group from the country that you are from. Look at your situation from the outside. Imagine you had a friend who was allowing herself to be abused and given diseases like you. From my point of view as an outsider this is terrible, shocking and appalling. You must think very little of yourself to write what you have and not be able to see that this person has treated you and your child like animals, in the most evil and dreadful way. You can't see it because you are a victim of abuse. You see yourself as worthless and only deserving of this kind of terrible, tragic violence. You seek validation for yourself as a person by hoping to change him. You never will but you can save yourself and your innocent child. How can you love this man? You care more about him than yourself even though he has been vile. Perhaps like slaves loved their masters in times gone by. They would love them even after a good beating because they were given a little bread and water. I know I sound harsh but I find your situation unbearable to read about and you must get some help if your life and that of your child are not going to become a living tragedy. Please do it.
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (8 May 2006):
 What you should do is have nothing more to do with him get him out of your life.
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