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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now, but I still have feelings that he is cheating. About 6 months ago he left his phone open to some messages from a girl he used to work with saying, "We should meet up" and "Your not just a plan-b piece of ass". I immediately told him it was over and he begged and pleaded that he loved me so I gave him another chance. Then about 2 months ago, I saw him exchanging pictures with his best friends ex-girlfriend. And AGAIN, I told him it was over and he begged and everytime it seems sincere, so I cave in because I love him and I know deep down he loves me. But I know how bad it sounds, and how stupid I look for giving him more chances. Should I just break it off before I get cheated on again?
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (1 May 2011):
 Cerberus, excellent response as always! Listen to him girl truer words you will never find. Learn from them.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (1 May 2011):
Dump him right now.
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reader, lisahorn_1  +, writes (1 May 2011):
They don't change. The first time is a "mistake", and after you forgive them for that, they realize they can get away with it because you forgave them the first time. It will continue to happen. Don't waste your time on this guy.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (1 May 2011):
 He doesn't mean he's sorry he cheated, he means he's sorry you found out about it. This guy knows you will let him get away with anything and takes advantage of it. You need to dump him immediately, he is the type of cheater who will never stop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2011): i agree with the previous posters.
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reader, angel5395 +, writes (1 May 2011):
Darlin there are plenty of other fish in the sea and this a-hole boyfriend of yours doesnt deserve such a kind-hearted soul like you! Dump him. Let him know exactly why its over and even if he falls at your feet and begs you to stay, be heartlessyour gonna avoid so much more hurt later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2011): *No, you should stay with him. It's nice to a have a piece of ass waiting there for you to come back to her while you go out and explore your options with other women. It's really nice of you to do that for him.You're a cheaters perfect woman OP, no need to change that now. You just sit there like a good woman and believe everything he says, even though his actions say he doesn't love you at all, you just go ahead and believe his words. Girls like you are awesome for cheaters, no matter how much they hurt you, you stay, waiting for some kind of movie moment to occur where it will all work out, a long sweeping romantic orchestra will kick in and he'll carry you in his arms into the sunset.Don't give up OP, stay with him, he hasn't found that other girl yet and it would be mean of you to take away the easy lay that you are to him until he has found that woman. So keep your legs open, your mouth shut and stop complaining about this because you're not going to stop him and he won't because you'll always take him back*What do you think of what I just wrote OP? If you're not thinking "Fuck you Cerberus, how dare you speak to me like that!" then you should be. If you're not thinking that then why the hell not? None of what I just said is in any way acceptable OP and all I did was say the words. This guy is actually doing those things to you and treating you this way. So even if you did think "how dare you" what are you going to do about it?You see if I left my post like that, you'd probably have written a big long "fuck you Cerberus" post, I'm never coming back this site again you're and asshole kind of thing. Then all I'd have to do is write a big long apology, a please don't leave this site, I'm really sorry that I said those things and it won't happen again. And you know what? You'd probably accept that, and stay. Then you're next post I completely tear you apart again, you react angrily, I apologize and you stay again. It wouldn't happen like that OP would it? You wouldn't let me get away with doing that at all. A stranger on the internet, so why the hell do you let your boyfriend get away with that? He's supposed to love and cherish you yet all he does is hurt you, over and over, then worm his way back into your life and you get hurt again. Is that love? Because if that's love that's news to me."Should I just break it off before I get cheated on again?" Based on everything I just said, what do you think? Is it really worth being that worthless and ashamed all the time for a guy you know deep down doesn't actually love you, you only wish he does and hope he'll see that some day. Go OP, just go now and don't let him pull that slimy, little weasel trick of begging you to stay.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (1 May 2011):
 You are mistaken in thinking that deep down he loves you. If his love was deep at all, he wouldn't be so willing to cheat on you, you would have been enough, if he really loved you he would never want to hurt you like this. Just forget about him and move on.
I hope that helps.
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