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writes:Do you think that it's normal to feel sad most of the time? sometimes i'm happy not always. i feel a sadness inside that i can't get rid of. it feels like i'm dead already. i try to keep a happy face 4 my kids and family... but deep down i just want to run far away. Can you tell me what's wrong with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2010): I had a great therapist awhile ago. When I felt horrible the first thing she would do is ask me what was going on that day, or that week. She also validated my feelings. "Anything you feel you feel for a REASON, even if you don't quite know what the reason is at the time."
Honestly, being a wife and mother can be a really negating experience. If you are just treated like a maid, or all of your energy goes only to taking care of everyone else's needs, that's enough to make anyone feel terrible.
A good therapist, who is REALLY on your side, can help. Maybe you need to stand up more for yourself, to have a more equal relationship. Maybe you need to focus on your own dreams and gifts, OUTSIDE of being a wife and mother. Maybe you are not being your real self at all.
I am sure that some of this is coming from childhood--if only in the sense that you may have been taught to focus on everyone else's needs and not your own.
Simple things can help, but they DO involve putting yourself first. Eating really well is important. Fresh air and sunshine. A good friend, and if you don't have friends, taking steps to find them.
Please get the help you need. You feel this way for a reason. It is your inner self telling you, "Please help me, please take care of MY needs!" Once you start doing that, you will feel much much better.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (26 March 2010):
 It sucks to go through depression. You don't say if you've just been feeling depressed, or if there's something in your life that you can pinpoint as the cause of your sadness.
Tell us more about what's going on in your life. You may talk us, PM us, and tell us a bit more, we'll listen.
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reader, Sweety123 +, writes (26 March 2010):
 has anything drastic takin place in your life recently because it could explain things you may be feeling left out and not sure what to do so you just smile and go along with everything but start to ache inside for real companioship that will actually put a real smile on your face not an artifical one, try to find someone whos interisted i some of the same things and go do stuff together go shopping or get manicures or go out to eat and have a blast and just try to focus on sharing a real conversation with that person not a fake one because if they care about you at all they'll be able to tell if your smiles real or not maybe not right away if they don't you that well yet but once they do they'll notice trust me.
hope this helps :D
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 March 2010):
Sounds like depression of some sort. You've had four children, so it could be a form of post-natal. Or it could just be that you#re suffering from clinical depression from something in your life that is bothering you. Whatever it is, it would be a good idea to speak to the doctor, as he/she can help.
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reader, Brunel  +, writes (25 March 2010):
Oh dear! There is nothing in this it is often the mood swings and physical chnages that occur during our life.
Perhaps there is something that has happened to you in the past that you have not dealt with -- sort of post trumatic stress syndrome.
Start to write down all your negative thoughts and search inside yourself as to what these are. Think long and deep, put it down even if it hurts you, relationships, death of a relative, separation, divorce, the list is endless but once you ID them it gets easier.
Please feel free to pm me if you wish with some of these thoughts. You will get through this I assure you!
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