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writes:I was texting this man for 2 months, he used to text me every day and we had met up a couple of times but not lately, so last week I asked him in text where we stood and he replied "not too sure I find its best not to worry about it and go with the flow" I felt like he was playing the field so I havent texed him ever since but he text me a week later again just normal conversation. Should I answer and what should i say??
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2010): It sounds like you like him far more than he likes you. I wouldnt get in touch or answer him again. You are on target to getting hurt.
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (30 July 2010):
Well, if he doesn't seem all that interested, I'd just drop it altogether and focus on meeting a man who wants to SEE you, not just TEXT you.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the reply oh i knew that we werent dating i just thought after meeting up 5 times and goin to dinner ect and txting the whole time that he might have asked me out by now or atleast done somthing
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reader, cocoqueen88 +, writes (30 July 2010):
 First of all texting isn't dating so please believe that after 2 months of texting that you dont "stand" anywhere. just calm down and text to him like normal.... no harm in that. but get out there and find somebody who actually wants to SEE you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have met up with him 5 times but they where not in the last 3 weeks to me he dosent seem that intrested so i dont no what i should say to him i feel he has other women on the go thanks for repling
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (30 July 2010):
Well, I don't know. You say you've been texting for two months, have met twice in that time "but not lately." Presumably it's not a question of him being at some distance from you that would make it difficult to meet more often?
UNLESS that is so, it doesn't sound as if his interest level is all that high, sorry to say.
It was way too soon to be asking him where do we stand considering the limited amount of contact via text/meetings, you know. (Remember not to do that another time - unless someone is very keen, it IS too early for them to really know, so I can understand his response).
Better to have suggested getting together for a third meeting and if he agreed, to see how it went. That would give you both more of an idea as to whether this is something you wanted to pursue further.
However, what's done is done. As things stand at present, you COULD try sending another text to invite him out somewhere and see what he says. If he agrees, and the third date goes well, that's good, otherwise, you might prefer to just let it drop altogether here and now.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010): Oh yeah answer back. Make sure it's natural; be yourself, and be kind.
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reader, natmarie +, writes (30 July 2010):
 yeah! text him back - with NORMAL conversation - and see what HE does after that. :o) Just follow his lead.
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