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writes:So me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months and we love each other a lot. About a month or 2 ago, a girl from his past (not ex, just hooked up) contacted him asking to hook up again. He told her he had a girlfriend but she continued to text him all the time asking him to please have sex with her and other things like that. He always told me when she texted him and whatever. This might sound stupid, but if he was planning to cheat with her he wouldn't have told me about her right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): It is good he tells you. But he should tell her in strong terms NO!!. Let she knows that you are aware too. He doesn't need to reply and even has to block her number. Tell him to do that and make sure he did it.
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reader, rcn +, writes (10 January 2011):
 I agree that he's more than likely not cheating. I would like to add that he needs to be more aggressive and shake this girl off from asking him to hook up for sex. He should tell her that he's not going to cheat and that she needs to stop contacting him to ask for this. He needs to be firm so she gets the picture. Also, I'd recommend he block and delete her number. He doesn't need to have communication with her, while he's dating you.
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reader, yorkshireboii  +, writes (10 January 2011):
It depends really. We can look at it two ways right?
1, he is being openly honest with you and letting you know that this "ex" of his, is texting him to try hook up. He is letting you know in advance, should you stumble upon any of his text messages. Personally, I think this is the case.
2, the alternative is that, he is letting you know so to throw you off the bait. First and foremost, why does the ex have his number? Secondly, if he doesn't want to be involved with this girl, why does he respond? Surely if his motives were clear, he would block her cell/mobile number and ignore any and all texts she sends.
However, let me state now, that I think the case really is just warning you and letting you know. You have to be cautious though, we are talking about humans, the masters of cunning.
I hope I have helped you somehow.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (10 January 2011):
 He sounds honest and open to me. Until you see him acting suspicious, trust the guy. He cannot control what other people do, only how he responds. His response so far has been to tell this other girl "no" and let you know what's going on. Trust him.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (10 January 2011):
 I would say no not at all. He is telling you because he wants to make sure that you know nothing is going on between them. He keeps getting the texts and it is kind of a waste to change ones number over this. Also he may be replying because he doesn't want to be mean which is a good characteristic. I'm sure he is over her completely and is 100% there for you.
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reader, foxy7727 +, writes (10 January 2011):
 In most cases yes you are right. If a man wanted to sleep with a past fling he wouldn't tell his gf anything about it. It wouldn't make sense for him to tell u all about her wanting him then turn around and sleep with her. Not to say it couldn't happen but it is more unlikly that it would happen like that. It sounds like you have a good honest man I wouldn't stress to much about it. He was honest enouph to let u know she had contacted him. And to also tell u what she was saying.
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