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writes: I broke up with a man who I had a four month relationship, love him so much, everything was perfect except sex, he could not perform intercourse, he said he was not impotent, but I think it is psychological, he is only 41. I wrote him a letter, asking him to not to deny the problem, and seek help, otherwise we will only remain friends. I was hoping that he would open up and be honest about it, and then we could get help, instead he said so be it, we will ramain friends. I am a very attractive woman, I can have any man, but I love him, he is seeing others and is dating, I have him on my mind all the time, I don't know what to do. I broke up, how do I get him back? I wish I was patient and maybe then he would have gotten help.
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reader, Wildberries +, writes (23 May 2005):
A good sex life is an important part of any healthy relationship. Understand there are a multitude of ways to satify your sexual needs without intercourse. Maybe it something that will never change, regardless of where it comes from.If you really do love him, maybe you will just have to accept that part and work with him on the rest. If it is an intimacy issue more than a sex issue you are probably better off looking for someone else.
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reader, wwww.datinghaven.com +, writes (23 May 2005):
If you are looking for sex why not become a prostitute? You would also get paid for it (so no need to keep your job)! :D Breaking up with someone you love for such a pathetic thing, i mean its not like he said he never wanted sex with you and refused becauise you are a [abuse/offensive description/reason here], it was a problem performing, i think hes doing well. he deserves someone better and im glad he moved on and dating others. It seems you are very pushy etc. and you are probably the reason why he cant perform in bed.Trust me this place is comedy sometimes...Your attractive and you think you can have any man, why are you f**king around with that guy when there are billions out there? ^o) I suggest you put him behind you and do some dating yourself!
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reader, Christie +, writes (22 May 2005):
There is no point in wishing that you had done this or that. The point is you must not beat yourself up about a mistake you made, and start to focus on how to make things right again. By suggesting he was impotent, you most probably insulted his ego. A man does not feel like a man if he feels 'impotent'. He may very well not be impotent at all, he may just have been nervous or under stress you do not know about. These two things and many other things can cause a man to not be able to 'preform' in bed. If these are the case then he probably didnt feel too happy when you suggested he get help. Now he is dating, and you two are just friends. You should talk to him. Do not overcrowd him with facts about stress, but see if he is happy with how he is, if he is not discuss getting back together. However, if he truly does not wish to get back together. You must I am afraid to say move on. Obsessing will not help. If you truely love him. You must take comfort in the fact that he is happy and try and find your own happiness. Take care.
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