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writes:What is wrong with him. I am a 36 yr old woman, my partner is 42. we have 2 children 3 and 6 yrs. We dont currently live together as we had broken up some months before. We were recently getting along better and had started to become a family again. He then goes and spoils it all with his horrid temper. We had words as he had invited me to his mums one afternoon and when i arrived he was no where to be seen. When i questioned him later that evening he went totally mental at me saying he s fed up with having to clock watch etc, basically blaming me. He then grabs me by my hair and pushs me in the corner. My kids were present and heard everything. I have not spoken to him since. He seems to try and play it down by making a joke that he pulled my hair. He has said he is sorry but this has not been a one off, he went to prison for 4 mths 3 yrs ago for punching me. I thought he had learnt his lesson. He blames me completely for all of his behaviour, yet says he is sorry and expects me to forgive him. What is wrong with this man, why cant he see what he does is wrong. Reply to this Question
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (8 May 2011):
 Forget about him completely. You have absolutely no reason to contact him again or have him in your life. Your children definitely don't need him in their lives. No matter how many times you put a violent man in prison, he will always stay violent, the only thing that could possibly fix him is professional help and the willingness to fight his violent self. But he obviously doesn't care about that or you or even his children, so forget about him and make sure he never comes near you again.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Steve_S +, writes (8 May 2011):
 Usually this behaviour is indicative of guilt. As he reacts using violence I would get out of his way, take the kids with you. Leave him!
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reader, MamaBear  +, writes (7 May 2011):
What is wrong with this man? What is wrong with you to stay in this bad relationship? You have two children and they do not need to witness violence between their parents. I'd think the stint in prison would have gotten him to think a bit clearer, but obviously not. My suggestion is to move on in your life. It may not be easy but it would certainly be easier than putting up with a bullying and short-tempered partner. Good luck.
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reader, GG96 +, writes (7 May 2011):
I don't know whats wrong with him, but don't talk to him again. Take your kids, don't talk to him again, and move if necessary. That's not a healthy environment for you or your kids. He's abusive and probably has anger management problems. Don't believe that he's changed ever again, because obviously he didn't before. Be strong for your kids, and cut him out of your life.
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