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writes:I had been dating a guy for 7 week that i met online. We text and talk on the phone. He has also told me already he loves me and we have also kissed and some touching. He has asked me several time to go and spend the weekend with him to. He has also asked me out on dates but never did that yet. He told me he wants a woman to spend time with and a realationship. I have met him twice in person for hour each time. He text me last week and told me i waited to long to go out on date that i played him for 7 weeks. He also told me he lost interest for me and he is nmoving on. doesnt want to be around me or friends cause i really hurt him that bad. what do i do i really like this guy just was really scared i have been hurt in the past.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 March 2013):
 Exactly. He wants A woman, ANY woman, the first who's desperate enough to take up his offer blindly, no-questions- asked. He does not want YOU in particular.
He told you he'd never leave you, he'd never hurt you- and I suppose ,since you have known him for all of two hours IRL, then you MUST trust that he is telling the truth, right ? :)
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reader, withone +, writes (17 March 2013):
withone is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe has told me he owns a house and doesnt like being there alone. He wants a woman to spend time with . I told him that i have been hurt in the past and he said he wouldnt hurt me. or even leave me.
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reader, sherrig +, writes (17 March 2013):
You need to be careful no matter what, he should understand that.There have been women who have disappeated in Aruba, so be cautious about dating.If he cared at all, he would be patient, not demanding. Offer to meet him at public places, where others are with you, until you get to know him better. Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2013): He may not be only interested in sex he may just be really desperate to get into a relationship and maybe even marriage. Maybe he is tired or afraid of being alone. Whatever the reason it doesn't change the fact that you are not on the same plane. He wants to move really fast. Who knows he may have a goal to be married within a year. Just tell him bye bye and wish him well in his search for whatever it is he is so desperate for.
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reader, withone +, writes (17 March 2013):
withone is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDo you all think he will contact me again to try then?
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reader, withone +, writes (16 March 2013):
withone is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe never even had a date just met for a hour two times. we mostly text and talked on cell. he kept asking for a date and wanted to spend the day together but i never did.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (16 March 2013):
I think that he is SOOO bullshitting you. He was horny and impatient, and could not waste any more time for getting laid. He told you he loved you after one or two dates ? and he kept pressuring for you to spend the weekend with him, when you don't know him from Adam yet ? ...Elementary Watson. Don't regret him, he was just feeding you lines .
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reader, withone +, writes (16 March 2013):
withone is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe touchy was hands wondering the boday. He has asked me several times to go out on dates but i never did. He would call me sexy and beautiful and couldnt wait to be close to me. Told me sex wasnt a factor at all. He told me i played him for 7 weeks and hurt him by this. I text him but he tols me that he doesnt want to be around me and was gonna block me but hasnt yet. what u think????
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 March 2013):
This guy was definitely in this just for sex, and when he didn't get it, he just ditched you. It sounds to me like you had a really good escape. You'd only met twice really, and his callous comments at the end just show that he was interested in moving you on so he could get sex elsewhere. You didn't hurt him at all, it was just his way of blaming you.
You've said you've been hurt before, so let this one go so you don't get hurt yet again. You might have liked him, but he was nowhere near the grade that you should have been looking for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2013):
Listen, let him move on.. You haven't done anything wrong. You two have meet twice spent an hour each time with each other and he thinks that by throwing in the ' l ' word ( love) that you would rush to spend a weekend with him and who know what he would be after ( but I think it woulda be more than a cuddle) that's for sure .
He's not worth your time or energy you are right to be wary . 7 weeks is nothing, if he disinterested now, he wasn't that interested in the first place.. Give him a wide berth, move on and find mr charming , yes you may kiss a few frogs but hey you will find the one when you least expect it...
Take care good luck . X
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